Dealing With Being Alone And Never Married.

Dating a Granny does have it's advantages, hahaha. I miss shooting BB Gun with the grandson of the one I was going out with. I'm too young to be a grampa but that's OK I'm cool with it.

I am 48 and have 6 grandkids.

I love my freedom and independence but it does take a toll on your mental health if you let it. I admire men who are self-reliant and independent. Some grow beards like Duck Dynasty and don't care about what you think of them. Sometimes I want to be like those men. I remind myself to be a man, quit whining and learn to enjoy isolation. (Only women need close friends, marriage, and a social life)

Maybe I should just enjoy my isolation and independence. Isn't this the way men are supposed to be built?

TW, I understand where you're coming from. I have those same thoughts sometimes.

I married at 32 and raised her daughter from the age of 4. We divorced 12 years later and now we're back together after being apart for 10 years. Comparing the two times (married vs. single) as an adult, I would say that being single is a lot simpler in many ways, but being married is more rewarding.

During that decade of being single, I dated a woman who had grown children and grandchildren. We lived separately and got along well, but after a few years I realized I couldn't marry her and ended it. A few years later my ex and I started talking again. ("Talking" isn't what you youngsters think it is. It was just talking.)

I think what I learned during that time was that it's more fun to share life with someone than to live alone. It's just a lot more difficult in some ways.

There's nothing wrong with being single. If this thing with the ex ever ends for whatever reason, I won't be looking to remarry or even date. But I know that will include the possibility of feeling lonely from time to time.

I have no good advice on how to meet women or find a wife, but I can guarantee that if you do find someone to marry, it will stretch you.

I remember reading an interesting article some years back about how women feel less inclined to have a husband beginning around their mid-50s, and men feel more inclined to have a wife around the same time. If that's true, my advice would be to look for someone younger. (No younger than half your age plus nine, according to my dad lol.)