New To This Life . . . A Life Of A Trucker Wife

Well girlfriend actually. It has been really tough to say the least. Before meeting my partner, I knew nothing about the trucker world, and since meeting him I have been opened up to a whole other world out there. My friends don't understand and I often get "Why would you put yourself through that?" He is a great man and makes me happy, he loves his job and most of his friends are truckers as well. We talk all the time, video chat, text, and email. I love him, and have learned alot, we both have sacrificed alot, but there are days where I feel lonely and that nobody I know understands. My friends hubby's work at 9-5 (cute ain't it LOL), they don't understand this life. Reaching out to other ladies that have gone through it, still going through it, and encourage others at same time.

You answered your own question....he's a great guy and makes you happy. Grab on to that because it's a gift from God, IMHO.

Before I was a trucker, I was involved with an infantryman who was always deployed. I used to laugh at the "omg, my boyfriend has been gone for a whole week on business". I still laugh at those who make it sound like truckers are on another planet.

My advice, don't make him feel.guilty about being away. If he's that good of a guy he already feels bad. Sometimes I deliver near home but can't take home time, if he does this, try to meet up with him at the truck stop. When he comes home give him time to sleep and then spend time together. Even just doing laundry together and going shopping to stock the truck...these are things he needs to do, that he won't want to so he can take you to dinner.

And don't listen to those who tell you truckers are cheaters with women in every city. Do some cheat? Sure. But usually we don't have time for it anyway, so unless he's a real dog, he's all yours ;)

I know how you feel, my husband started school on March. He now has his own truck (leasing) we have 2 kids with 1 more on the way. It's not easy, but this job is what makes him happy. And I will back him I'm his decision in life. If you truly love your spouse then I say just support him. It won't always be a fun and joyful experience. There are times I've been stressed, upset, lonely, and overwhelmed by this job but at the end of the day my love for him doesn't change and I know no matter what job he does the one that makes him happy will make me happy.

Thats Great!

My dad drove for OTR 44 years. My stepfather had several businesses.. a local dump truck business which served our farm, our limestone quarry, asphalt paving company, and a redi-mix plant. My ex and I had a small otr trucking company, our own authority and a couple O/O's leased to us.

My personal education and background is in healthcare. I worked nights in a hospital, and later worked travel contracts. I then retired and became an OTR Company driver. I love it. I love the freedom, the solitude, no time clock to punch, and the challenges. My better half? He drives too and we meet up for home time every few weeks. Sure I miss him.. madly in love with him, but I talk to him each day, often more than once and sometimes for hours while we're both just cruising without hardly talking.. just keeping each other company if that makes any sense. If you love your man and trust him completely it's so much easier. As Rainy said.. unless he's a real dog.. he's all yours.

I've never been accustomed to that helpless female mindset and grew up around trucks. If there was work to be done, everyone did their part. I don't see trucking as difficult relationship wise.. it what it is. It's not for everyone and I'm certain it's hard for some. It's hard work. Being married to a trucker, to me, is like being single most the time but having an intense relationship several days a month when they're home. It provides a good income for those who aren't afraid of hard work and their families. Appreciate that luxury.

Of course when I was married to the trucker/OO/diesel mechanic, it was before FaceTime, Skype, cell phones weren't common either lol. You gals truly have it made and probably don't even realize it. You can reach out multiple times a day, instead of waiting for that scheduled phone call home every day or two.. or three.