I Don't Know What To Do!

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Jenn260's Comment
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This is my situation. I haven't been working because of this school. My boyfriend is also not working because of the weather. (He also attends the school and is ready for testing.) We have been living in my car for over a week. I have less than a half of tank of gas. We haven't eaten in 2 days. The school won't even mock test me till I pay them 155 for the drug test and physical. After being sexually assaulted by an instructor I feel they should eat the 155 and send me to test so I can leave this school and put it behind me!

Old School's Comment
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Jenn, you're really starting to confuse different issues now. Don't let your different situations cause you to act irrationally. You owe them the money. You knew that from the start. Figure out how to pay your bill and move forward.

Jan P.'s Comment
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Jenn your entering a new field and I understand your hit hard times financially but you need to prove your responsible and you should of had some savings before going unemployed and now living in your car starving? You knew there would be testing fee's etc, didn't you have a plan for this before?

What was your plan to even feed yourself for the few weeks your in school?

You need to understand your going to be asked to plan your days meticulously and days in advance sometimes so you need to get it together.

Go to the food bank get a good meal because you don't want to be tested driving a truck starving.

Too many red flags.

Big Scott (CFI's biggest 's Comment
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Jenn, I hate to say this but you need to toughen up. How did you and your boyfriend decide to jump into trucking with zero money. It seems like you didn't look before you leaped. I don't know where you two plan to work. Here is where you should start right now.

Also there are many companies who offer Paid CDL Training Programs In this industry women have to put up with a bunch of crap. That's just how it is. You will need an address for you CDL and for a company to have on there records. Trucking can be a very rewarding career. One needs to be able to roll with the punches. For example, I noticed a leaking axel seal on my pretrip this morning. When I stopped for my 30 minute break I noticed it was worse. Messaged road service and my FM. My clock is winding down and I may have to let dispatch know that I won't make my appointment time. They will either have to change the appointment or repower the load. Just do my job. Many things can happen out here. Good luck.


Commercial Driver's License (CDL)

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  • Any combination of vehicles with a gross combined weight rating (GCWR) of 26,001 or more pounds, providing the gross vehicle weight rating (GVWR) of the vehicle being towed is in excess of 10,000 pounds.
  • Any single vehicle with a GVWR of 26,001 or more pounds, or any such vehicle towing another not in excess of 10,000 pounds.
  • Any vehicle, regardless of size, designed to transport 16 or more persons, including the driver.
  • Any vehicle required by federal regulations to be placarded while transporting hazardous materials.


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The primary person a driver communicates with at his/her company. A dispatcher can play many roles, depending on the company's structure. Dispatchers may assign freight, file requests for home time, relay messages between the driver and management, inform customer service of any delays, change appointment times, and report information to the load planners.
Jason K.'s Comment
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I don't disagree with the other commenters above with regard to "you should have known", however, on the other topic of "toughening up"... guys she was Sexually ASSAULTED, not Harrassed, ASSAULTED. I don't mean to rock the boat but that claim of Sexual assault is a bold claim if it is true, I am not there so I can't say. If it is true that is disgusting, and that person should be reported to the police and/or whoever he works for. If it is a ploy because you failed to plan then that is on you. Most women don't divulge that kind of sensitive information in a public forum like that so easily, so that is why I question it. Regardless you need to slow your brain down and think about what needs to be done and your options to get there or if you should take another route.

Jenn260's Comment
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We had plans and things were going great. We had roof over our head and food in our stomachs and extra money to boot. However due to unforseen circumstances my boyfriend was told by the dr last week he is not to drive a cmv until further testing. He has a mass on his stomach and suffers from lightheadedness dizzyness and weakness. He has lost 20 pounds in 2 weeks. He drives dump trucks with his class b that he had.

The sexual assult did happen. I am pretty tough considering other jobs that I have had example security for frat parties the police academy and 2 older brothers so I can put up with a lot of crap but a person that I am suppose to be able trust and learn from puts his hands on me the way he did is uncalled for and inappropriate.

The local police, chief of police at the college, and the school that I am attending are all involved.

Well I have to go back into the emergency department for my boyfriend.


Commercial Motor Vehicle

A CMV is a vehicle that is used as part of a business, is involved in interstate commerce, and may fit any of these descriptions:

  • Weighs 10,001 pounds or more
  • Has a gross vehicle weight rating or gross combination weight rating of 10,001 pounds or more
  • Is designed or used to transport 16 or more passengers (including the driver) not for compensation
  • Is designed or used to transport 9 or more passengers (including the driver) for compensation
  • Is transporting hazardous materials in a quantity requiring placards
Nighthawk's Comment
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Stay strong, Jenn. I know the crap you're in right now sucks, but it will pass and you'll be stronger on the other side. If you need anyone to vent to, hit me up. mmiller458@gmail.com

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Jason K.'s Comment
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I wish you luck as well, and I'm sorry to hear that happened to you, it is uncalled for. I'm also glad to see you took the proper steps to involve the proper people.

With that addressed then as far as trucking is concerned, you really need to look for some options, bring this up to people you do trust at the school, see who can help you out. You had plans but probably not planned far enough out. When I attended school I planned or expected to not have money for about 2 months after school finished so I saved enough to live on comfortably for 2 months after school was finished. I received my first check within a month so I'm glad I planned.

If your plan was to have an income from your husband because he was ahead of you and he was stopped due to medical reasons, 1 week or even 2 is not enough.

Your original post says "due to weather" is why he cannot work, and your last reply says due to a medical condition. It's none of my business and you may divulge whatever you feel is necessary but that seems like 2 different excuses. I'm just not sure how the weather and a mass on a stomach have much to do with each other, sorry for my ignorance if that is the issue.

I can only assume that he has either been eating more than usual which takes out of your saved money dwindling it down or maybe the doctor/hospital bill has exhausted your funds. I'm not sure, but if either one of those are the case then it sounds like you both should seriously rethink how to do this and if it will work for you.


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Jenn260's Comment
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Why there are 2 different reasons. First of all he was in the weekend class and I am in the full time class. He got the call from his dr not to drive last week. He lied and told me he wasnt working due to weather. He was scared to tell me the truth about his health because he is scared.

After everything that has happened at the school I am not sure I want to return considering I was told today that they took all the steps that they feel they need to do as in suspending him till I graduate. What about the females that attend the school after I graduate.

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