Haven't Been Around Much Lately

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Davy A.'s Comment
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I haven't been around too much lately, my relationship is ending with the Mrs and it's easy to isolate and get into one's head when that happens.

It serves to remind me to pay attention to my emotional well-being and not drive distracted. Although truth be told, the driving is therapy for me and let's me put the situation out of my mind.

I'm by no means recommending anything to anyone about relationship vrs driving but for me personally, I simply can't return to a non driving career and I long for the varied places, the sunsets and sunrises, the freedom I experience out here.

There is still a sadness at the loss but choices are made.

Some random things from. The last few weeks.

I did Monarch pass loaded. Pretty intense road. Technical driving.

My DM will be leaving soon. He told me that I was known as the one driver that they can hand any load and know it's going to get done without a problem. That if there are issues I make them aware immediately and usually have a solution. Its gratifying to hear.

Saw a driver go down Vail pass today flying, brakes on the whole time. His trailer and tractor brakes were on fire when I went by at the bottom. I never even used my service breaks on it.

The guys at the shipper today asked if I could help a new guy strap his load (beer load) so he could get out of the dock. He was new and spent a long time backing g up. I helped him out and gave him a few pointers on backing up. He spoke broken English. Was a strange thing. Pulled me out of my head though.

Anyway, one foot in front of the other, onward and upward. And I just drive through the emotional roller coaster. It's my sanctuary.

Shipper:

The customer who is shipping the freight. This is where the driver will pick up a load and then deliver it to the receiver or consignee.

Dm:

Dispatcher, Fleet Manager, Driver Manager

The primary person a driver communicates with at his/her company. A dispatcher can play many roles, depending on the company's structure. Dispatchers may assign freight, file requests for home time, relay messages between the driver and management, inform customer service of any delays, change appointment times, and report information to the load planners.
PJ's Comment
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Davy I am sorry to hear your going through all the stuff.

I have been there and done that. No fun and very emotionally taxing. As a driver we generally have too much time to think and that sure doesn’t make anything any easier.

It will and does get better. You sound like you know the basics, but sometimes even knowing we can slip up easily.

Life does go on. I am far better off these days in many ways and you will be too. Time has a way of healing wounds.

We’re here for you sir!!! Stay safe!!

OWI:

Operating While Intoxicated

BK's Comment
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Hey Davy. Yeah, you were conspicuous by your absence. Sorry to hear about your split. I’m sure you will apply the same problem solving abilities you have shown with your driving and come out of this a wiser and stronger person. Hang in there, man.

RealDiehl's Comment
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I can't say what the proper choice is when it comes to choosing a career over a relationship. I'm fortunate to have never needed to make that decision.

I simply can't return to a non driving career and I long for the varied places, the sunsets and sunrises, the freedom I experience out here

It sounds like you made the best choice for you. And based on the positive feedback from your FM I hope it helps to validate your decision.

Fm:

Dispatcher, Fleet Manager, Driver Manager

The primary person a driver communicates with at his/her company. A dispatcher can play many roles, depending on the company's structure. Dispatchers may assign freight, file requests for home time, relay messages between the driver and management, inform customer service of any delays, change appointment times, and report information to the load planners.

OOS:

When a violation by either a driver or company is confirmed, an out-of-service order removes either the driver or the vehicle from the roadway until the violation is corrected.

PackRat's Comment
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If you need anything, give me a text or a call.

Bill M.'s Comment
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Sorry to here about splitting with your wife. Good luck with everything. Speaking of brakes on fire; last week I saw the same thing, driver flew by me blowing his horn only to be sidelined at the bottom of the hill with brakes on fire. Never touched mine either.

Take care out there man!

OWI:

Operating While Intoxicated

George B.'s Comment
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Its tough to have to choose between career and spouse. I have been married 12 years. I am 52. She is 34. I have had to make some good and bad choices involving my careers. Not easy. You my friend are becoming a top notch trucking professional. You seem to find peace and comfort in the solitude of driving. Stay positive. Your company thinks highly of you and you have gained their respect. Keep us posted. I wish you the best. Keep driving into those sunrises you love.

HOS:

Hours Of Service

HOS refers to the logbook hours of service regulations.

OOS:

When a violation by either a driver or company is confirmed, an out-of-service order removes either the driver or the vehicle from the roadway until the violation is corrected.

Anne A. (and sometimes To's Comment
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Davy;

I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm also sorry to have dragged you out of the shadows in TwoSides' thread; I have a way of doing that. Folks love me or hate me for it... I know.

The comments above are so stellar, so sincere, so heartfelt. Many of us have emails in our profiles, including myself. If you'd ever like to chat with someone on the 'female' / homebody side, you know you can reach out to me. OR my other half.

If I said these 22 years have been easy, I'd be the BIGGEST liar. And then some.

I am SOOOOOO dang sorry to hear, good sir. I simply have no words. The cameraderie in this forum abounds, I'll give you that.

I'll keep you in thoughts and prayers.... so many of the above comments really stuck out to me. We care.

Hang in there, man.

~ Anne & Tom ~

ps: You wouldn't be the 1st TT'er to obtain my phone # should you need an ear at the other end of your Parrot, when you are tired, or just losing focus. Anytime, just ask. (Free of charge....hmmmm...."idea?" Just Kidding, man.) Momma Anne .. still here.

Dennis L's Comment
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Sorry for you Davy, but you will get through this as others have said.

I’ve followed you since your training diaries with Knight. I’ve been impressed by your progress as a professional driver.

I simply can't return to a non driving career and I long for the varied places, the sunsets and sunrises, the freedom I experience out here.

I totally relate to this sentiment. Being on the road these past few months has been a blessing to me. I’m more adventurous than my wife. During our 35 years of marriage we have lived a part more than together. I spent 22 years working and living overseas while she stayed home in US. She wouldn’t have hacked it. Being on the road gives us a break from each other. We do better communicating by text messages.

Good luck and best wishes.

Davy A.'s Comment
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Thanks to everyone for the support. I pulled off a few times today, just gathered my thoughts, enjoyed the scenery, walked a couple miles today.

I've started a workout program in the truck, just bodyweight and isometric along with resistance bands. Accompanied by a high protein lower carb diet. I found that by putting the armrests down on both the chairs, it makes a great parallel bars setup for pikes, dips and raised crunches.

I'm lean but was getting a little doughnut around the middle i dont care for. was in gymnastics as a kid before I broke my back and lifted for years, I'm still able to get the resistance I need for size and strength simulating low rep high resistance training just done with natural exercises such as push-ups, incline push-ups, pull ups using the top bunk frame, thrusts and squats and creative use of coolers, tire chains and space. It's making me feel a bit better and keeps me out of my head.

Once again the support here is much appreciated and a life saver.

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