Profile For Susan M.

Hello Ladies!

My name is Susan and I very new to the OTR trucking life. I finished trucking school 2 weeks ago and I am about to set out with my mentor for some driver training. I am so far loving it but I need some advise for a rather major problem I am having with my husband.

Here is some back story to help get the whole story. We have been married for a little over a year and together for almost 4. The beginning of our relationship had its ups and downs but we stuck through it and were very happy. about a year ago we hit money problems which resulted in marital problems. 6 months ago we moved to New Mexico and started making ends meet and things were looking better. Then our room mates left so we were in a bind again. I decided I was going to go to school to get my license and start making for money and have a way better job then I had. We needed to do something because things were starting to get bad. That is when things with his jealousy started.

I had worked things out, money wise, to get me through school until I start bringing in a paycheck. He was understandably upset when it came time for me to leave for Phoenix. He was going to miss me and I was gonna miss him but I thought we could get through it and it was our only chance. Things were okay for the first couple days when school was getting paperwork all together and nothing exciting to talk about happened. I called him after class and told him about my day and who was involved. ie. "Today Me and David were practicing pre-trip today". Around that time is when he started calling more and more. Then he started not letting me off the phone to go to bed. After class sometimes a group of us would go outside to study and hang out. I forgot my phone in the hotel room one night and I came back to 17 missed calls. I told him everything that went on during my day and called him every night and texted him as much possible through the day. I told him who I talked to and what it was about.

He eventually started telling me I needed to come home and he couldn't handle it. I was 2 weeks in so coming home was not an option. He then started spending too much money, skipping bills, missed rent. He tried blaming me for not making any money. This went on the whole time. I was there for 4 weeks. Now I finished my orientation with my company and am officially hired. I was supposed to leave with a trainer yesterday but they didn't have one yet. They were trying to get me one today but it didn't work out and now they are sending me to Denver to get one. One of my friends I met at school lives in Denver and is at the terminal waiting for his truck. My husband is freaking out. He wants me to quit instead of going to Denver.

I can't handle him being this jealous especially in this industry. I don't know what to do to help it. I do not want to quit and I am at a loss. What can I do.