Profile For Future trucker

Hi all I'm looking into to getting cdl training and becoming a truck driver. But like many people I have some questions and reservations about some things involved with it.

My first concern was I'm married and have 3 kids how can I go do a year of OTR and only see my wife and kids like 1 or 2 times a month . But then I found out that Roehl , and millis transfer both have flexible schedule . So that brings me to my first question are there any other companys that I should be looking into that offer training ,good pay, and the possibility of local ,regional,dedicated with out doing 6 month to 1 year of OTR?

2nd question my seem a little funny to some of you . It's about the hernia check part of the DOT physical. I'm not ok with any one other than my wife messing around in my pants for any reason. From what I've learned from reading online this is not required by the DOT . Correct? In fact a friend just had his dot pysicle done and they did not check. So if I get mine done by the same doc I don't have to worry but will Roehl,or millis accept the card issued by that doc when I go for training or do they have there own doc check you again no matter what ?

Hoping to get some feedback from you guys real soon and I'm sure I will think of more question too. Thanks in advance for any advice or help you guys can give