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Posted:  3 years, 10 months ago

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A challenge, maybe?

Let me tell you something, Jenny. If I had been that woman he was giving a ride to, when I would have come out of his truck and see the distress it was causing you, I would have been jumping in and not been afraid to reassure you that there was nothing going on. I would have been giving you an explanation as to why I asked your "good man" for a ride and needed his help. I wouldn't have been hiding, and wouldn't have let the poor guy fend for himself trying to reassure you. That's what an honest woman in need would have done. Instead, she hid and didn't say a darn word, when she clearly saw the trouble it was causing.

Sometimes men can be a little "dumb" (no offense guys!!) about these things, because they often don't see eye to eye with us, ladies. We're very sensitive about stuff like that, whereat a lot of guys don't see "what's the big deal about it" because they don't think about our feelings. Let's assume your guy was that one who didn't know any better.....that woman should have stepped in and present herself to you.

She didn't. And he lied also. And he took care of her before your child and you. Spent the night elsewhere instead of his own bed.

As far as explaining your son....telling him the truth might be a solution, but when he's much older (an adult man). A child doesn't need to hear all that, and if he's to have a relationship with his dad, you don't want to come off as the parent who always bad mouth the ex. Kids *hate* that. The truth will eventually come out some day. Maybe you can simply say something like "daddy had different views than mommy about relationship commitments".....one day when he's old enough, he'll understand what you meant. As for now, your job is to raise him teaching respect not only for girls, but for everyone. Be strong, don't stay in your own bubble and seek support where you can. And most importantly....always try to wake up seeing each day as an opportunity to find something better, with a smile. Smiling always help. :)

thank you what you wrote is exactly what I told her when I asked her to talk to me instead she hid and he defended her

Posted:  3 years, 10 months ago

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A challenge, maybe?

Sometimes a step or two backwards is needed before moving forward again

You know what you have to do . Just do it and be thankful for your family's support.

Good luck

I'm always thankful for my families help I said resorted because my mom believed in him as much as I did and now its more they have to resort to helping me once again. I don't appreciate being viewed as a failure but that's what is happening once again. Thank you for the luck .... I'm thinking I need to be more wiser more so then needing more luck. Its really disheartening, I wasnt the only one he let down.

Posted:  3 years, 10 months ago

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A challenge, maybe?

Excuse me , but you are saying you have no $$ for diapers and he refused to help. ?

Do you have food for yourself and child ?

If not I am certain that some if my fellow TT followers would feel as I do and send you a few bucks .

thanks but it is ok I resorted to asking my family for help... Thank you for offering though. The best thing to come out of this is letting it out rather then holding it in....

Posted:  3 years, 10 months ago

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A challenge, maybe?

No money to buy diapers for his own child because he was too preoccupied taking care of HER needs first? Spent the night at the truck stop with HER? Hell no. NO. No. Hell would freeze over before I'd let him walk back into my life! Tell him that he can now consider his truck his new home!

I can say this I didn't let him mess up my Thanksgiving even though he did this the weekend before. He truly isn't bothered by missing out.... Maybe that is what bothers me so much. But I am truly done with him.... I needed to get it out there cause it was eating me up inside especially since he is acting like I'm wrong for feeling the way I do.

Posted:  3 years, 10 months ago

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A challenge, maybe?

I respect the replies. The challenge I have is what I will be able to tell my son when he asks about the man that is not there, how will I help him not become that same way, gosh I hope it's not gentic? I'm sure it'll come to me with time. What gets me is he'll seem so friendly like this relationship ment nothing. Someday if you run across a long hauler with an accent that calls himself J.R.Who has a friendly know that he turned his back on his son for a woman he still swears was only a ride.

I told him I'm done with him and angry by the betrayal. He wanted me to feel like I'm the one losing out. I am hurt deeply by this because I had trusted again after my ex (before J.R.) destroyed everything I had and I had to pick up all the shattered pieces, J.R. helped me while I fought hard to recover... just for him to bring home a girl.... I just don't get it. Why would a person forget what is important and act like it never mattered and turn it around on me. He met me with my four children and left me with five. It's not easy but I have been doing what I know.

Posted:  3 years, 10 months ago

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A challenge, maybe?

I respect the replies. The challenge I have is what I will be able to tell my son when he asks about the man that is not there, how will I help him not become that same way, gosh I hope it's not gentic? I'm sure it'll come to me with time. What gets me is he'll seem so friendly like this relationship ment nothing. Someday if you run across a long hauler with an accent that calls himself J.R.Who has a friendly know that he turned his back on his son for a woman he still swears was only a ride.

Posted:  3 years, 10 months ago

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Its not been long since I was on here last and the replies I got were helpful in easing my estranged thoughts that lacked comprehensive understanding. Although I am angry and obviously very pained. He lacks complete understanding of why I'm so hurt and is thinking I am wrong for breaking off the relationship because of this woman and that I'm losing a good man who could have cheated on me at anytime but chose not too. This is what he is saying. I'm not one for drama so I am truly hoping that this does not look like drama. In turn I'm reaching out for hope and inspiration. In the past I have been a very naive female and choose my partners poorly. Out of my ex's not one has come forward to be there for his child/ children and yet again I feel I have chosen poorly. I can't get my mind and focus back on track with what he did. He feels so strongly that I am in the wrong. This woman hid and could not face me he even protected her and his truck. He admitted that he had no money for diapers his son needed because he was helping her. At first I was disappointed in his decision but told him I would offer my couch or even give her blankets to keep warm. He said he needed to take her to the truck stop. (The part where I thought to wa) the next day she was still with him that night I asked him to spend an hour with his son and he refused and told me he wouldn't leave his truck even though he could leave his truck in a parking lot right in front of the home. He stayed at the truck stop anyways. So once again why did he come home just to be so cruel, he has no conception of what he put me and my children through. He has not even said he was sorry and tells me he doesn't know what to tell me because he is a "good" man who "loves" me. He told me to leave the poor woman alone even though he claimed to have dropped her off. He has no understanding that yes the woman has a lot to do with my anger but what I really want to know is why he did that, why did he bring her there and stay with her instead of his own family if he was only giving her a ride? The pain is so aggravating, I want focus back so I can get back to being the strong person I know I am.

Posted:  3 years, 10 months ago

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Trucker spouse normal or not

He used to work for may trucking and he talks to some of the people he graduated with in Utah like Bonnie and Blake

Posted:  3 years, 10 months ago

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Trucker spouse normal or not

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I really don't understand why he would throw away a future so carelessly... He was a man who would ride his bike miles just to tell me he was sorry that was before he went on the road. What about being out there makes someone change. He changed to a point that I found out months after his son was born that he was only half an hour away I gave him an eight hour notice. And I still tried to see it his way. I held onto the memory of who he was before. His passenger couldn't even face me and tell me herself why she excepted a ride from a man she didn't know who told her he was heading home to see his family. What kind of people change like that?

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Ok well I can see you are starting to get it. From your initial posts it sounded like you either didn't see or couldn't accept the truth.

Who changes like that? No one. He most likely was this "new" person all along.

The "change" that occurred was when he covered it up with false romanticism and pretend caring in order to win you. Once he did that, he didn't need to keep up the charade any longer so his true nature came back out.

I'm guessing you're both young, maybe early- to mid-20s, right? If you're looking for him to really settle down and treat you right, it ain't gonna happen until the next decade, sorry to say.

Now if you're totally committed to him, then you absolutely need to stand your ground and demand he make a sudden and drastic change. If he doesn't agree, then don't even waste your time.

he is almost 40 I'm in my 30's that's why I said I'm disappointed in him he is old enough to know better

Posted:  3 years, 10 months ago

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I really wanted to believe him but I am that mama bear and my kids will see me be both parents. I don't have a father's point of view but I had my father and I can empathize and not make the loss a burden only a blessing.

Posted:  3 years, 10 months ago

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I can tell you what my wife would do. She would shoot me. Being a combat medic in the military as well as her Masters degree in the medical field, she would stitch me all up so she could shoot me again.

Maybe that was it I didn't give him nothing to fear lol now he knows and he seen a side I don't like to show. Maybe now that I've opened up about this it'll get back to him in a way that he will finally truly understand how much his decision hurt his family or maybe he'll laugh at it and feel free either way I hope for an up side out of this for any spouse that waits on her trucker and prays for his safety daily will be saved from this kind of hurt because this story touched that trucker that almost lost himself out there on the road. Always remember who is waiting for you and what you will lose if you make the wrong choice and what they will lose as well. Safe travels through the holidays

Posted:  3 years, 10 months ago

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Trucker spouse normal or not

I really don't understand why he would throw away a future so carelessly... He was a man who would ride his bike miles just to tell me he was sorry that was before he went on the road. What about being out there makes someone change. He changed to a point that I found out months after his son was born that he was only half an hour away I gave him an eight hour notice. And I still tried to see it his way. I held onto the memory of who he was before. His passenger couldn't even face me and tell me herself why she excepted a ride from a man she didn't know who told her he was heading home to see his family. What kind of people change like that?

Posted:  3 years, 10 months ago

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This is what I do know when I asked him he said he hadn't thought about how much it would hurt me because he knows what it is like to be stranded. This is the part that throws me of with this experience. It was over three months sense I had seen him last our son was two weeks old at that time. So when he was on his home time this time I was thrown off by a couple things he said before I even got to see him. One was he told me the wrong day which wasn't completely unusual but the other was he had things he had to do before he could come see me. Six hrs later he knocks at the door stays twenty minutes and leaves. Four hours later he comes back by said he was hanging out with his friends. After twenty minutes he said he was tired and needed to get the truck to the stop he made it sound like he had to get to wa in three hrs and he'd be back in the morning. This was not normal for him. I told him I'd walk him out to his truck that's when he told me about her. I didn't know how to take it. I couldn't talk to him believing he'd be back in the morning. At one the next day my kids and I wanted to go fishing at the lake. He let me know he was back I invited him to go thinking he'd dropped his passenger off. My kids and I were very confused when she got out of the truck. He claimed he told me he was needing to get her to the truck stop in town so she can use the bathroom and shower. He changed his story from the night before. He attempted to comfort me with her watching and I couldn't understand what he was expecting from me. Why come home at all and lie? Why be so open after lieing? I am still very confused.

I'm also very disappointed in him. Someday I hope he runs into a wise driver who tells him something that will stick and turn on a light bulb.

Posted:  3 years, 10 months ago

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Trucker spouse normal or not

This is what I do know when I asked him he said he hadn't thought about how much it would hurt me because he knows what it is like to be stranded. This is the part that throws me of with this experience. It was over three months sense I had seen him last our son was two weeks old at that time. So when he was on his home time this time I was thrown off by a couple things he said before I even got to see him. One was he told me the wrong day which wasn't completely unusual but the other was he had things he had to do before he could come see me. Six hrs later he knocks at the door stays twenty minutes and leaves. Four hours later he comes back by said he was hanging out with his friends. After twenty minutes he said he was tired and needed to get the truck to the stop he made it sound like he had to get to wa in three hrs and he'd be back in the morning. This was not normal for him. I told him I'd walk him out to his truck that's when he told me about her. I didn't know how to take it. I couldn't talk to him believing he'd be back in the morning. At one the next day my kids and I wanted to go fishing at the lake. He let me know he was back I invited him to go thinking he'd dropped his passenger off. My kids and I were very confused when she got out of the truck. He claimed he told me he was needing to get her to the truck stop in town so she can use the bathroom and shower. He changed his story from the night before. He attempted to comfort me with her watching and I couldn't understand what he was expecting from me. Why come home at all and lie? Why be so open after lieing? I am still very confused.

Posted:  3 years, 10 months ago

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Trucker spouse normal or not

I would really like to understand his point although every angle I look at it from makes me even more confused... So to all the truckers out there would you feel sorry for someone enough to give them a ride when you know your on your way home for your home time and expect your spouse to see it your way and ask you to have patience and understanding?

Posted:  3 years, 10 months ago

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Trucker spouse normal or not

My boyfriend drives and has for almost a year on his last home time he brought home a lady claiming to be giving her a ride. I didnt take it well because he hid her and catered to her needs at a local truck stop during nearly his entire hometime. Is this a normal habit of a driver? I would like to understand.

Human trafficking doesn't sound like what I saw she wasnt literally hiding he just hid the fact she was with him waiting on him to take her to the truck stop. And he catered to that stranger reguardless if he didn't cheat. Would any trucker do that on their home time to their family? .... It kind of felt like the joke was on me .... Is there an explanation for why he came home with her in his truck freely able to come and go...

Posted:  3 years, 10 months ago

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Trucker spouse normal or not

My boyfriend drives and has for almost a year on his last home time he brought home a lady claiming to be giving her a ride. I didnt take it well because he hid her and catered to her needs at a local truck stop during nearly his entire hometime. Is this a normal habit of a driver? I would like to understand.

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