From Trucking Wife To Trucking Wife

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JT3wife's Comment
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Hello all! I am a wife of a man who has decided (with some guidance) that he needs a change of career and thus chose to become a trucker. I am just trying to get to know some other trucker's wives or long-time girlfriends to help me and our kids get through the tough times. And just some general conversation with women who understand what I will be going through, as the majority of my friends have told me that they think "I'm crazy" and that they "won't be able to relate."

I do come from a strong family background in the trucking industry, so I am already familiar with the sacrifice and stability of a spouse's role at home. But that doesn't mean that we don't have "weak" moments or need someone to have an open ear. So if you are someone who is looking for similar things, please leave your name or just give me a shout out!

Happy Trucking!

HOS:

Hours Of Service

HOS refers to the logbook hours of service regulations.
Susan D. 's Comment
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What you'll typically find here at TT are drivers or people considering becoming one, or those who are in CDL school. I was married to a driver years ago, and currently date a driver-- we team together. I'm not sure what your looking for exactly. The first year as a driver will be incredibly challenging for your husband, so hopefully you are supportive of this career move, because he will need it.

CDL:

Commercial Driver's License (CDL)

A CDL is required to drive any of the following vehicles:

  • Any combination of vehicles with a gross combined weight rating (GCWR) of 26,001 or more pounds, providing the gross vehicle weight rating (GVWR) of the vehicle being towed is in excess of 10,000 pounds.
  • Any single vehicle with a GVWR of 26,001 or more pounds, or any such vehicle towing another not in excess of 10,000 pounds.
  • Any vehicle, regardless of size, designed to transport 16 or more persons, including the driver.
  • Any vehicle required by federal regulations to be placarded while transporting hazardous materials.

HOS:

Hours Of Service

HOS refers to the logbook hours of service regulations.
Emerald's Comment
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Hi JT3Wife!

Thank you for this topic, as I'm right there hanging with you! I'm wife, mother, and grandmother now. Kids all grown and have their own familys now, so it's just Sean, myself, and our two dogs (Girlie and Camo).

My Sean, just started his career in Trucking with Millis Transport. We are both very excited about this new adventure. He went thru Millis' CDL school and received his CDL last month. He has another 2500 miles or so to go with his OTR trainer before he gets his own truck and he is LOVING it. Today, he's driving from Cincinnati, OH to Elkton, VA and told me he's really looking forward to driving thru the Appalachians for the first time. After VA, he will be heading down to Albany, GA. So many miles in such a short time.

I'm really looking forward to seeing him in his new truck soon. Can't wait to see his happy face. I miss him so very much.

CDL:

Commercial Driver's License (CDL)

A CDL is required to drive any of the following vehicles:

  • Any combination of vehicles with a gross combined weight rating (GCWR) of 26,001 or more pounds, providing the gross vehicle weight rating (GVWR) of the vehicle being towed is in excess of 10,000 pounds.
  • Any single vehicle with a GVWR of 26,001 or more pounds, or any such vehicle towing another not in excess of 10,000 pounds.
  • Any vehicle, regardless of size, designed to transport 16 or more persons, including the driver.
  • Any vehicle required by federal regulations to be placarded while transporting hazardous materials.

OTR:

Over The Road

OTR driving normally means you'll be hauling freight to various customers throughout your company's hauling region. It often entails being gone from home for two to three weeks at a time.

Dm:

Dispatcher, Fleet Manager, Driver Manager

The primary person a driver communicates with at his/her company. A dispatcher can play many roles, depending on the company's structure. Dispatchers may assign freight, file requests for home time, relay messages between the driver and management, inform customer service of any delays, change appointment times, and report information to the load planners.
JT3wife's Comment
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I am a mother and wife. My main goal here is to just connect with women (and men) in the same boat as me. For support for one another when our times get hard or if we're missing our trucker.

Claire S.'s Comment
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Hey, I'm a girlfriend of a trucker with two young children. We haven't been together long and this is the first relationship I've been in that my partner is away for so many weeks at a time. We have been together for 3 months and my children are from a precious relationship. Yesterday he left to drive long distance for up to 7 weeks. Even though as the days go on I will get back into my usual routine, working and kids, etc it still is hard for the first few days. I constantly miss him even once I'm getting used to it again I'm still missing just having him here to cuddle. The one good thing is our technology now, we speak to each other daily, and FaceTime most evenings so it sometimes feels as though he isn't away, it's just the physical touch that proves he isn't. How long is your husband away for? Also my friends have exactly the same attitude, but they are our men and we love them, they aren't the ones that have to live this life but it would be nice if they gave you support and maybe arranged ladies evenings together with you to keep you busy and having a laugh too as this would keep you sane.

It's great to know that I'm not alone here xxx

JT3wife's Comment
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My husband hasn't started his job yet. However when he does he will be away for 6 weeks or longer. He will be with Melton and they have a minimum two week hauls but we agreed that unless absolutely necessary he won't be away longer than 1 month at a time. We have three young boys, two from a previous. We've been married for 4 years this May. I know that with the technology it is better than it used to be. And yes, missing him physically will be something to get used to but I'm sure we will get by. :)

I do have girlfriends that are on board with making it a weekly ritual to get together with. So I will be trying to stay busy with that. Thanks for commenting. And good luck with getting back into your routine.

Emerald's Comment
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Well ladies, Sean came home finally after about 15 days out. He drove his own newly assigned Millis truck home and he seems so very happy. He is loving this new lifestyle (except for missing me of course!) .

Just left again this morning for a pick up in Carrollton, TX that's going to Alabama. Missing him a lot alreaDY, but we did get him a bunch of new gadgets and one of those BlueParrot headsets, so he can talk to me on the road while he drives without ever touching his phone.

new truck driver in front of Millis Transport truck

HOS:

Hours Of Service

HOS refers to the logbook hours of service regulations.
Susan D. 's Comment
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Just realize that the headsets are nice.. i have one, however at many companies even the headsets are against company policy. I don't know about Millus specifically but certainly not allowed at my company.

Here is why: in case if a DOT recordable / reportable accident, not only would the commercial driver be subjected to drug and alcohol testing, their logs AND cell phone records WILL be scrutinized carefully. It would be ON HIM to prove he was using hands free. They also ascribe to the theory that even hands free could be construed as distracted driving. I know my company does not want to be put in a position to defend something like that.

It's simply something to keep in mind. DOT does actually allow them but the company may not. The plus side, he is solo and must take a 10 hour break every day.

DOT:

Department Of Transportation

A department of the federal executive branch responsible for the national highways and for railroad and airline safety. It also manages Amtrak, the national railroad system, and the Coast Guard.

State and Federal DOT Officers are responsible for commercial vehicle enforcement. "The truck police" you could call them.

Claire S.'s Comment
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Ahh sounds great now and it's amazing knowing you two can speak when you like, this makes a massive difference. It's crazy how we miss them as soon as they've gone but I enjoy missing him now and everything feels so new every time we see each other xxx

OWI:

Operating While Intoxicated

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