New Relationship With Trucker

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Dee N.'s Comment
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Here goes I need support and advice. I met a wonderful man online and he is a OTR driver. We get along great and seems like I've known him forever. I had my doubts at first and he stated in beginning he was willing to give his all in this if I could deal with his job. I must admit I have my doubts at times. I trust him and he did pick up a stop in my state which he doesn't usually do but came to see me. It was perfect when we went out and even in person it was as if we had known one another forever. Thing is the last week he has gotten a bit distant and we haven't spoken as much as we had been. I understand his hours can be crazy but I just like to hear his voice daily it doesn't have to be an hour conversation not even 10 minutes just to hear his voice. Well he got upset with me and basically told me if I was gonna be that way he'd rather be alone so I did respond if he felt that way it was on him and that I care a lot about him and want him in my life but he needs to want the same and show it left it at that so he texts to say hi middle of the night which i do not care what time he calls or texts as I know sometimes it may be the only time he has. So then and next day he was full of texts and nice words but never called just texted. So we finally spoke and he was a bit grouchy and he tends to get this way sometimes. Being apart and not being able to spend time with him is hard and I'm trying to be supportive but I just want to make sure signs I can tell he wants this. I am not that girl that needs 24 hour tabs on where he is as sometimes I have no idea where he is at even when we talk I trust him completely and want this to work. Any tips on how to handle his ways? Am u wrong to want that one minute of hearing his voice?

Thanks

OTR:

Over The Road

OTR driving normally means you'll be hauling freight to various customers throughout your company's hauling region. It often entails being gone from home for two to three weeks at a time.

Dm:

Dispatcher, Fleet Manager, Driver Manager

The primary person a driver communicates with at his/her company. A dispatcher can play many roles, depending on the company's structure. Dispatchers may assign freight, file requests for home time, relay messages between the driver and management, inform customer service of any delays, change appointment times, and report information to the load planners.
Lynette O.'s Comment
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If a partner isn't meeting your needs, then why would you want to keep that in your life? It really doesn't matter if any of us believe you are wrong or not. If a daily call is what you need, then maybe he isn't the one for you. Just my opinion though.

Susan D. 's Comment
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Maybe he's been burned before, maybe that 1 visit didn't go as well as you thought. .? I don't have a clue. I'm guessing you've only met in person 1 time. I think I'd personally back off, enjoy my life and see where he goes with this.

Dee N.'s Comment
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Thanks sue for you reply. I am enjoying my life and yes we did only meet once but things have been nothing but great up until a few days ago. I can get it sounds crazy but after we met he called 2-3 times daily and we talked and he texted all the time but the last week he has stopped which has brought on my confusion. I live my life and do everything I want it's just a feeling I've never had even never felt this deep with my ex husband. But I finally just laid it out to him tonight and come to be he is fighting a terrible cold and been on a tighter schedule so he's been sleeping odder hours and more since not feeling so well. So it really felt good to get this out and get some responses and to have the conversation with him. He is actually coming this way beginning of next week and was trying to surprise me on it to. I do appreciate the support as this is first relationship I've been in long distance like this so I just wondering how to handle all the different changed and how to deal with it. Thanks again.

Stevo Reno's Comment
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Well, from a males perspective, IF he wants to be in this LDR and make it work out, then he WILL make the effort to do so, or should. It's not gonna kill him to call once a day at LEAST, even if only for 5 minutes!...............I don't care how busy someones schedule is, they do have time to sleep, so 1 little call ain't gonna kill em, for 5-10 minutes lost sleep lol.

BUDLIGHT Express's Comment
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Just read your story. This from a man, who knows men. I can see he was very manipulative, and got what he wanted. Your getting used sweetie, lose that guy before your a mental wreck. I hope i'm wrong, but if it walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck......it's a duck.. This job is hard enough with this kind of distraction. Like one of the ladies posted......get a new better male companion. This guy will only call you, when he needs something. Trust me. Think of this post when he does.

Well, from a males perspective, IF he wants to be in this LDR and make it work out, then he WILL make the effort to do so, or should. It's not gonna kill him to call once a day at LEAST, even if only for 5 minutes!...............I don't care how busy someones schedule is, they do have time to sleep, so 1 little call ain't gonna kill em, for 5-10 minutes lost sleep lol.

BUDLIGHT Express's Comment
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He's not wonderful, read my post below. I posted on wrong one.

Here goes I need support and advice. I met a wonderful man online and he is a OTR driver. We get along great and seems like I've known him forever. I had my doubts at first and he stated in beginning he was willing to give his all in this if I could deal with his job. I must admit I have my doubts at times. I trust him and he did pick up a stop in my state which he doesn't usually do but came to see me. It was perfect when we went out and even in person it was as if we had known one another forever. Thing is the last week he has gotten a bit distant and we haven't spoken as much as we had been. I understand his hours can be crazy but I just like to hear his voice daily it doesn't have to be an hour conversation not even 10 minutes just to hear his voice. Well he got upset with me and basically told me if I was gonna be that way he'd rather be alone so I did respond if he felt that way it was on him and that I care a lot about him and want him in my life but he needs to want the same and show it left it at that so he texts to say hi middle of the night which i do not care what time he calls or texts as I know sometimes it may be the only time he has. So then and next day he was full of texts and nice words but never called just texted. So we finally spoke and he was a bit grouchy and he tends to get this way sometimes. Being apart and not being able to spend time with him is hard and I'm trying to be supportive but I just want to make sure signs I can tell he wants this. I am not that girl that needs 24 hour tabs on where he is as sometimes I have no idea where he is at even when we talk I trust him completely and want this to work. Any tips on how to handle his ways? Am u wrong to want that one minute of hearing his voice?

Thanks

OTR:

Over The Road

OTR driving normally means you'll be hauling freight to various customers throughout your company's hauling region. It often entails being gone from home for two to three weeks at a time.

Dm:

Dispatcher, Fleet Manager, Driver Manager

The primary person a driver communicates with at his/her company. A dispatcher can play many roles, depending on the company's structure. Dispatchers may assign freight, file requests for home time, relay messages between the driver and management, inform customer service of any delays, change appointment times, and report information to the load planners.
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