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Tammy A.'s Comment
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This is EXACTLY the lifestyle I want. My client is 73 and his walking is getting bad. I would have to let him go which is very hard but now I have to live my dream

I'm guessing your 33 year old son doesn't work. If he did he wouldn't be able to go with you. Are you ready for a lifestyle of 4 to 8 weeks on the road then home for a few days and back out? Is your son going to ride with you? You may need to find a caretaker for your disabled friend.

This is a lifestyle, not a job. Why do you want to be a truck driver?

You have some hard decisions to make.

IDMtnGal 's Comment
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Tammy,

As a caregiver of my traumatic brain-injured husband for 18 years, what I was taught by Council on Aging that had monthly caregiver meetings, is to make a clean break quickly. Then you stay away for a minimum of 21 days. That sets the person up to be able to manage without you. This is more for people with dementia but it also works on normal people with health issues.

If your son is trustworthy to help the older gentleman, get them set up with meals that you freeze if you have to, or have a month's worth of groceries that they can cook up on hand, surely he knows how to do laundry...just make sure he has plenty of soap. Then get signed up for school with a company and leave. Tell them once you have your schedule you will let them know when they can call and talk to you and any text messages you will respond to at the end of the day. That is what I had to do with my husband when I placed him the nursing home.

Unfortunately we didn't get to the 21 days as he fell on day 8, breaking his hip and hitting his head. The hospital didn't check the cut on his forehead and he was seeping blood into his cranium. Several days later he was given a unit of blood and that caused the vein to rupture. After his funeral, I went out on the road 3 weeks later.

Get things at home squared away quickly and then leave. They will manage and be fine.

Laura

HOS:

Hours Of Service

HOS refers to the logbook hours of service regulations.
Tammy A.'s Comment
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Laura, Thank you so much. I am so glad someone understands. He is mentally retarded but lived on the streets for 30 years when he was younger. My kid cant take care of him. They dont really get along. Henry is jealous of him and he doesnt listen to him. Im so sorry about your husband! Its a hard life to live and even harder to walk away from. Henry would be put in a group home with other people and Im sure he will adjust eventually. I just told my kid if he doesnt want me to leave home quit the weed and become a truck driver too. How do you like trucking now that your on your own? Do you feel FREE? I cant even imagine what it feels like but I am looking forward to it. I know the trucking life because I spent 3 years on the road with my kids father 35 years ago and loved every minute of it. Well except going to Ohio lol We caregivers need to at some point start taking care of ourselves. Im going to check out your profile and see how you did it. Thanks again

Tammy,

As a caregiver of my traumatic brain-injured husband for 18 years, what I was taught by Council on Aging that had monthly caregiver meetings, is to make a clean break quickly. Then you stay away for a minimum of 21 days. That sets the person up to be able to manage without you. This is more for people with dementia but it also works on normal people with health issues.

If your son is trustworthy to help the older gentleman, get them set up with meals that you freeze if you have to, or have a month's worth of groceries that they can cook up on hand, surely he knows how to do laundry...just make sure he has plenty of soap. Then get signed up for school with a company and leave. Tell them once you have your schedule you will let them know when they can call and talk to you and any text messages you will respond to at the end of the day. That is what I had to do with my husband when I placed him the nursing home.

Unfortunately we didn't get to the 21 days as he fell on day 8, breaking his hip and hitting his head. The hospital didn't check the cut on his forehead and he was seeping blood into his cranium. Several days later he was given a unit of blood and that caused the vein to rupture. After his funeral, I went out on the road 3 weeks later.

Get things at home squared away quickly and then leave. They will manage and be fine.

Laura

HOS:

Hours Of Service

HOS refers to the logbook hours of service regulations.
IDMtnGal 's Comment
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My info has my cell number....I do texting and calls are okay also. I'm going back to sleep til 1100 am mtn time, 1300 east coast time.

Later.

Laura

Anne A. (G13Momcat)'s Comment
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My info has my cell number....I do texting and calls are okay also. I'm going back to sleep til 1100 am mtn time, 1300 east coast time.

Later.

Laura

Ms. Laura .. I hope Tammy is doing well in and with her choices, and stops by here more often.

I'll help when & how I can, but it's kinda out of my wheelhouse.

Hope you work this out, Tammy!

~ Anne ~

IDMtnGal 's Comment
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Ms. Laura .. I hope Tammy is doing well in and with her choices, and stops by here more often.

I'll help when & how I can, but it's kinda out of my wheelhouse.

Hope you work this out, Tammy!

~ Anne ~

Anne,

Never heard from her.

Laura

Tammy A.'s Comment
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thank you! Im taking him and my kid on a 17 day road trip. leaving Monday. I told everybody i need to do this before making my final decision. every time we go on vacation i end up saying never again lol so maybe this will make it easier

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My info has my cell number....I do texting and calls are okay also. I'm going back to sleep til 1100 am mtn time, 1300 east coast time.

Later.

Laura

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Ms. Laura .. I hope Tammy is doing well in and with her choices, and stops by here more often.

I'll help when & how I can, but it's kinda out of my wheelhouse.

Hope you work this out, Tammy!

~ Anne ~

Anne A. (G13Momcat)'s Comment
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Thanks for stopping back, Tammy!!

Enjoy your roadtrip, and stop back upon your return, letting us know if you've furthered your decision.

Laura is a blast to text with and talk to, so ... if you get bored, hit her up!!

Safe travels,

~ Anne ~

Tammy A.'s Comment
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Thanks alot! i added up the miles 3000 in17 days lol maybe THEY will want to leave after this but 100% not

Thanks for stopping back, Tammy!!

Enjoy your roadtrip, and stop back upon your return, letting us know if you've furthered your decision.

Laura is a blast to text with and talk to, so ... if you get bored, hit her up!!

Safe travels,

~ Anne ~

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