Unexspected Struggles

Hay all I am home on my first offical home time. It has been and intresteding three weeks have had alot of down time and also now on my second truck. All that aside, I am struggling with heading back out I feel like I just got home and already have to head back out. I did not plan on this being this hard, like almost wanting to give up the job hard. Dose this get easier or are you always going to feel like your missing out on your familes life with you are out on the road. Be safe out their

Dominic, I'm sorry to say but it doesn't get easier. The truth is you are missing your families life and you slowly become an outcast because they never see you. No sugar coating, that's trucking. I've been at it almost a year and I still get emotional telling my wife goodbye. Not afraid to admit it. It's not one of those things that is easy, it will always be hard. No one was meant to hang out at home for a few days then be gone for a month.

It's a very difficult lifestyle and we do our best to warn people about the harsh realities of it.

I’m just the opposite! I’m looking forward to the trucking life! My wife and I have been together for 25 years now and we have a successful business taking care of the elderly. It’s been pretty much her deal as she likes to remind me, so after all this time considering this and that I finally discovered a passion for a life of trucking for which I’m going to pursue and I can’t wait. I am so ready to go see America for months at a time and get paid for it!! Who knows? Maybe the heart will grow fonder if you know what I mean…

I knew going into this time away from home was part of the deal and growing up in a military family we moved around alot. I did not exspect the leaving par song you like some reason why I'm sure it to himt to be as eard as it is. I love driving truck I do i may just have to work into something with a day cab or find something where maybe you can get home weeklyish. Or maybe if I can get my better half o out with me some it will help out some. Their are many things I do enjoy about the job but alot I am needed toget used to. Also another topic, I am waver SO if you all run past dark blue werner freight shaker and some dude puts his handup dats me lol. I have seen so many gruff unhappy looking drivers in the little bit I have ran around we need to change that get some comrodery back in to the indestry like I hear their used to be I bet that might make life a bit better out their to. Just my silly Idea

That's not silly at all Dominic. At first read of your post I thought I felt sorry you were feeling that way. But something didn't seem right with those thoughts. Here's why I believe. You are a family man. You love your family and have not probably experienced a lot of time away from them. This may sound sexist, but oh well. You probably feel you also need to be there to take care of them. I'm sure the ladies will chime in on that statement. Anyway the point is that you are a caring human being, espically about those you love in this world. That is why you miss them the way you do. So don't ever feel bad about being that way. As a caring person we often do things for others far more than we ever do for ourselves. We don't make a fuss, we just quietly go about our life doing for others. There comes a time we all have to make changes in our lives. Most often those changes come as a result of needing a financial change, such as making more money and such. Most people totally ignore the fact of doing something because they enjoy it. You have to find a balance in life. You have to also be happy while your pleasing those others that you choose too. If not it will not be sustainable for the long haul (no pun intended). I wish you all the best.

It will not likely get any easier. I've never been married and don't have any kids but after I bought my first house I hated leaving it. Of course I had been driving for over a dozen years already and I was ready to have a normal home life out in the country with a big garden and some animals. But I found it got more and more difficult to leave the house.

Getting home more often would obviously help quite a bit. Being home on weekends would be a huge improvement. If you could find local work that pays the bills that might just be the best for ya.

But I wouldn't expect it to get any easier to leave. Once you're gone a few hours or a day you start to get back in the swing of things. But that initial moment when it's time to leave is brutal.

Well something else Indid not really notise till I was gone alot, was how much the family depended on me not just my girl amfpd her kids. My girls grandfather her mom all talking about me being gone all the time and everythings Inwas doingbefore I left and the hollidays staying out 5 weeks this time just to make sure I can get home as close to xmass as i can. S