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Kerry L.'s Comment
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When going out with a trainer, how much of one's personal life is expected to be shared? Is it strictly professional or a mixture of business with getting to know each other as to life away from the truck?

One reason that I ask this is that I am in an interracial relationship, and I know that there are people in this world who don't look too kindly on this. If I choose to not talk about my personal life, would this be viewed as rude or me just being my own person who has a right to share as much or as little as I want?

Has anyone had an experience where a trainer got a bit too nosy for your liking and how did you handle it?

I appreciate any responses to this post.

OOS:

When a violation by either a driver or company is confirmed, an out-of-service order removes either the driver or the vehicle from the roadway until the violation is corrected.

Bird-One's Comment
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You sure know how to keep it interesting Kerry. It would be viewed as you being your own person who has a right to share as much or as little as you want. Like anything else in life. Don’t over think it.

Anne A. (G13Momcat)'s Comment
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When going out with a trainer, how much of one's personal life is expected to be shared? Is it strictly professional or a mixture of business with getting to know each other as to life away from the truck?

One reason that I ask this is that I am in an interracial relationship, and I know that there are people in this world who don't look too kindly on this. If I choose to not talk about my personal life, would this be viewed as rude or me just being my own person who has a right to share as much or as little as I want?

Has anyone had an experience where a trainer got a bit too nosy for your liking and how did you handle it?

I appreciate any responses to this post.

Kerry, I'm the LEAST qualified and quantified. In another post, I mentioned Tom's 'Doogie.' Worked out rather well. The gentleman that trained him for the next OTR company (3 years down) was biracial, mostly African/Hispanic. To this DAY .. we shout him at Christmas.

One of our 'underlings' (not trainees, but a guy we got into the industry) is Japanese. He goes by Luc (or Luccc elsewhere.) We still keep in touch.

Stevo Reno should be a huge help, IMHO.

You are welcome to SHARE AS YOU SEE FIT, iirc !!

I'll shout Stevo. Many MANY folks on TT are in mixed relationships. SO ?!?!? I'm Italian & Tom is German, FFS... haha!

You're overthinking this. Again!

Just usn's~

A & T

ps: I'm sure i've got posts on the 'noisy/nosey' trainers; I'll dig up, haha!!! ;)

OTR:

Over The Road

OTR driving normally means you'll be hauling freight to various customers throughout your company's hauling region. It often entails being gone from home for two to three weeks at a time.

OOS:

When a violation by either a driver or company is confirmed, an out-of-service order removes either the driver or the vehicle from the roadway until the violation is corrected.

Anne A. (G13Momcat)'s Comment
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Bruce K.'s attempt at 'Personal Sxxff' which i alerted to correction, (hahahaha! Sorry Bruce) to; Personal Stuff . .

IDK, might be of a tone of help. Still thinking reading the diaries, from 5 years fwd (and Kearsey's Y/T) may help, also! Kerry, SO MANY OF THE REGULARS, ie; Bird One, Robert (Dragon), Turtle (excellent diary from Prime f/bd) as well as Rob D and Rob T!! Laura doesn't train, to my knowledge ... but has great info. IMHO, start w/ mods..., I can't name them all. How about Daniel B.'s? He started w/Prime; wrote this incredible pretrip, went to fuel hauling, and is now LTL'ing for the six's with OD.

Major apologies to those I've forgotten. Here's a few more: PackRat . . . Susan D. . . . Grumpy Old Man with HOW .. and Ldrshp who was there, but went rogue, and is now BACK, w/ H.O.W..... WAS AWESOME, WITH POSTINGS, too. To go WAY BACK; Chickie Monster (Trans Am, now Cal Ark) .. MillionMiler24 (highly recommended!) ...and then,MI MANO, Pianoman!!! Of course; he's back on occasion. Devan Jensen.. well.. gone.

Charlie Mac; another good read. Thull. Sheesh. Sooooo many!

Here ya go, good sir! Personal Stuff thread by Bruce K.

Best wishes;

~ Anne ~

LTL:

Less Than Truckload

Refers to carriers that make a lot of smaller pickups and deliveries for multiple customers as opposed to hauling one big load of freight for one customer. This type of hauling is normally done by companies with terminals scattered throughout the country where freight is sorted before being moved on to its destination.

LTL carriers include:

  • FedEx Freight
  • Con-way
  • YRC Freight
  • UPS
  • Old Dominion
  • Estes
  • Yellow-Roadway
  • ABF Freight
  • R+L Carrier

HOS:

Hours Of Service

HOS refers to the logbook hours of service regulations.
Steve L.'s Comment
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Geez! Who is it that has the prejudices?

I’m pretty sure 99% of us don’t care who you’re married to and, ESPECIALLY, what color they are. If your marriage comes up in conversation, I seriously doubt ANY Trainer will be asking what color your spouse is.

🤦‍♂️

Gregg M.'s Comment
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That's very easy.

When the casual conversation leads into more personal aspects of your life simply share with your trainer that you are a very private person, and that you would prefer not to discuss certain/many/all aspects of your personal life.

There's nothing special about that issue in the trainer/trainee situation - it's no different than working in close proximity with any group of people. Some folks share every minutia of their personal life, others share nothing at all. Most of us fall somewhere in the middle, sharing what we feel comfortable with.

The question you should really have is "What if my trainer insists on prying into my personal life?"

In that case your trainer is creating what is known as a Hostile Work Environment - an actionable situation that you should report to HR.

Gregg

HOS:

Hours Of Service

HOS refers to the logbook hours of service regulations.
Kerry L.'s Comment
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You sure know how to keep it interesting Kerry. It would be viewed as you being your own person who has a right to share as much or as little as you want. Like anything else in life. Don’t over think it.

I am that, but I am also someone who recognizes that I don't know much about some of the cultural expectations that go along with trucking. I would haye to go into a situation where I am thinking that by private about my personal life is acceptable only to find my trainer thinking that I am being shady like I have something to hide.

Yes, I am a very cerebral person, so one downfall to that is overthinking.

Kerry L.'s Comment
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When going out with a trainer, how much of one's personal life is expected to be shared? Is it strictly professional or a mixture of business with getting to know each other as to life away from the truck?

One reason that I ask this is that I am in an interracial relationship, and I know that there are people in this world who don't look too kindly on this. If I choose to not talk about my personal life, would this be viewed as rude or me just being my own person who has a right to share as much or as little as I want?

Has anyone had an experience where a trainer got a bit too nosy for your liking and how did you handle it?

I appreciate any responses to this post.

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Kerry, I'm the LEAST qualified and quantified. In another post, I mentioned Tom's 'Doogie.' Worked out rather well. The gentleman that trained him for the next OTR company (3 years down) was biracial, mostly African/Hispanic. To this DAY .. we shout him at Christmas.

One of our 'underlings' (not trainees, but a guy we got into the industry) is Japanese. He goes by Luc (or Luccc elsewhere.) We still keep in touch.

Stevo Reno should be a huge help, IMHO.

You are welcome to SHARE AS YOU SEE FIT, iirc !!

I'll shout Stevo. Many MANY folks on TT are in mixed relationships. SO ?!?!? I'm Italian & Tom is German, FFS... haha!

You're overthinking this. Again!

Just usn's~

A & T

ps: I'm sure i've got posts on the 'noisy/nosey' trainers; I'll dig up, haha!!! ;)

Thanks a bunch for the pep talk. Sometimes I need to be told to get put of my own head.

OTR:

Over The Road

OTR driving normally means you'll be hauling freight to various customers throughout your company's hauling region. It often entails being gone from home for two to three weeks at a time.

OOS:

When a violation by either a driver or company is confirmed, an out-of-service order removes either the driver or the vehicle from the roadway until the violation is corrected.

Kerry L.'s Comment
member avatar

Geez! Who is it that has the prejudices?

I’m pretty sure 99% of us don’t care who you’re married to and, ESPECIALLY, what color they are. If your marriage comes up in conversation, I seriously doubt ANY Trainer will be asking what color your spouse is.

🤦‍♂️

There are people here in Texas (mostly outside of major cities) who don't look too kindly at interracial relationships. It's kind of sad that this is still a thing, but I have seen that there are pockets of communities like this where people really don't think interracial relationships should happen.

Bird-One's Comment
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Who cares? If some people don’t think it should happen who gives a rip. I’ve personally never encountered anybody who asked me if I had a significant other followed by what color are they? Not just trucking but in general. Have you Kerry?

double-quotes-start.png

Geez! Who is it that has the prejudices?

I’m pretty sure 99% of us don’t care who you’re married to and, ESPECIALLY, what color they are. If your marriage comes up in conversation, I seriously doubt ANY Trainer will be asking what color your spouse is.

🤦‍♂️

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There are people here in Texas (mostly outside of major cities) who don't look too kindly at interracial relationships. It's kind of sad that this is still a thing, but I have seen that there are pockets of communities like this where people really don't think interracial relationships should happen.

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