A New Trucker’s Wife, On A Rollercoaster Ride Of Emotions…

feeling of guilt comes out as she becomes less patient around the holidays or birthdays and she hates not being able to get me anything. Even though she has access to our checking account and credit cards she still feels it isn't the same

lack of surprise is what bothered my stay at home mom sister.

i worked fir my bro in law and handled the bookkeeping so i was able to funnel her money for her to throw a surprise birthday party for her hubby. A few thousand dolars is hard to hide from the only bread winner

she felt boring without surprises felt he was neglected in that aspect

BTW no better to tell wives what their truckers are going through than trucker husbands lol

I have always handled the money in our home too. Not because I am a control freak or anything but because as hard as my husband worked I just wanted him to not worry about anything else. He didn't need to know that I was making arrangements with the power company because we needed one more week. I did not want him to work so hard and still have stress of the other stuff. Or to ever feel like as hard as he was working it still wasn't enough sometimes.

As part of preparing for trucking school hubs got his own bank account. Not because either of us is stingy but because I don't want him to be out there and the money in the bank be changing on a regular basis. Today there may be $1000 in there but then as soon as I pay some bills there went $700 in a matter of minutes. I need him to know what he has at all times so he can be better prepared until he gets back home. Before he would get gifts at holidays and birthdays because I love buying him things but I would never give up the money for him to buy me anything. I didn't need anything. A dozen roses showed up at my door on Valentine's day. My first response was a text message to him that simply said "Butthole" He will never let me live it down either. "I buy you flowers and you call me names" He is a butthole but I love him anyway.