Mom Of 3 Under 5

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James H.'s Comment
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I don't agree that kids necessarily need a stationary home and a stay-at-home parent, but in a team driving situation, one of you is supposed to be resting while the other drives, not managing three kids in a very confined space. Are your kids in pre-school or day care for at least part of the day? If so, one option might be for your husband to get a local linehaul job, which tend to be overnights, while you do the daytime yard spotting job. But this only works if he can get some meaningful rest during the day, and you at night.

Linehaul:

Linehaul drivers will normally run loads from terminal to terminal for LTL (Less than Truckload) companies.

LTL (Less Than Truckload) carriers will have Linehaul drivers and P&D drivers. The P&D drivers will deliver loads locally from the terminal and pick up loads returning them to the terminal. Linehaul drivers will then run truckloads from terminal to terminal.
PackRat's Comment
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But this only works if he can get some meaningful rest during the day, and you at night.

Seriously?

Banks's Comment
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I don't agree that kids necessarily need a stationary home and a stay-at-home parent, but in a team driving situation, one of you is supposed to be resting while the other drives, not managing three kids in a very confined space. Are your kids in pre-school or day care for at least part of the day? If so, one option might be for your husband to get a local linehaul job, which tend to be overnights, while you do the daytime yard spotting job. But this only works if he can get some meaningful rest during the day, and you at night.

That's not how linehaul works. Going by seniority, bottom of the list is considered an extra driver. That means you get 10 hours off and then you come back. Also, there are no set hours. What happens when a load is delayed or that's a traffic and he can't make it back in time for her to be on time then she's late? What about a breakdown or a flat tire? It happens a lot.

The only feasible option is to wait until they're old enough to take care of themselves.

I get it, life happens but now there are kids involved. That is the priority. I want to do this and my husband wants to that goes on the back burner. The only focus should be on giving those kids a stable upbringing. That doesn't happen in a truck or with mom flipping out because dad's 10 hour day turned into a 16 hour day at an LTL job or because he was supposed to be home Friday and showed up on Sunday driving OTR..

LTL:

Less Than Truckload

Refers to carriers that make a lot of smaller pickups and deliveries for multiple customers as opposed to hauling one big load of freight for one customer. This type of hauling is normally done by companies with terminals scattered throughout the country where freight is sorted before being moved on to its destination.

LTL carriers include:

  • FedEx Freight
  • Con-way
  • YRC Freight
  • UPS
  • Old Dominion
  • Estes
  • Yellow-Roadway
  • ABF Freight
  • R+L Carrier

OTR:

Over The Road

OTR driving normally means you'll be hauling freight to various customers throughout your company's hauling region. It often entails being gone from home for two to three weeks at a time.

Linehaul:

Linehaul drivers will normally run loads from terminal to terminal for LTL (Less than Truckload) companies.

LTL (Less Than Truckload) carriers will have Linehaul drivers and P&D drivers. The P&D drivers will deliver loads locally from the terminal and pick up loads returning them to the terminal. Linehaul drivers will then run truckloads from terminal to terminal.

HOS:

Hours Of Service

HOS refers to the logbook hours of service regulations.
Tammy A.'s Comment
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Im becoming a truck driver to RUN AWAY from mine lol

Thank you all for your feed back my husband have sat down and talked we have decided that he will start OTR driving and when I have the time he will teach me and I will take my test at the dmv for my cal and I will drive locally a basic 9-5 here in town and find a babysitter. We feel this is best for our family because our kids need me as mom at home we definitely took all of your statements into consideration and realized what was best for us. Thank you all for your honesty and truthfulness about the situation. Have a good week stay safe and get your rest when needed you all are very important to us and wish you all safety on the road and while going through this gas shortage!!!!๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€

OTR:

Over The Road

OTR driving normally means you'll be hauling freight to various customers throughout your company's hauling region. It often entails being gone from home for two to three weeks at a time.

Dm:

Dispatcher, Fleet Manager, Driver Manager

The primary person a driver communicates with at his/her company. A dispatcher can play many roles, depending on the company's structure. Dispatchers may assign freight, file requests for home time, relay messages between the driver and management, inform customer service of any delays, change appointment times, and report information to the load planners.

DMV:

Department of Motor Vehicles, Bureau of Motor Vehicles

The state agency that handles everything related to your driver's licences, including testing, issuance, transfers, and revocation.

Moe's Comment
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Jasmine, what about looking into potential warehouse job, if any in your area? You could learn a forklift i bet and the hours are usually steady, though sometimes long... I personally just don't beleive that a two trucker household is going to yield a stable environment for the kids , there are too many variables involved. Or perhaps doing something like parts counter for auto or truck shops , billing and receiving. There are alot of facets to the transportation industry besides CDL big rig driving that can give decent pay and more stability until the little ones can be on their own....

Just my. 02 cents for what its worth....

CDL:

Commercial Driver's License (CDL)

A CDL is required to drive any of the following vehicles:

  • Any combination of vehicles with a gross combined weight rating (GCWR) of 26,001 or more pounds, providing the gross vehicle weight rating (GVWR) of the vehicle being towed is in excess of 10,000 pounds.
  • Any single vehicle with a GVWR of 26,001 or more pounds, or any such vehicle towing another not in excess of 10,000 pounds.
  • Any vehicle, regardless of size, designed to transport 16 or more persons, including the driver.
  • Any vehicle required by federal regulations to be placarded while transporting hazardous materials.
Jazmine R.'s Comment
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And what exactly does that mean

Im becoming a truck driver to RUN AWAY from mine lol

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Thank you all for your feed back my husband have sat down and talked we have decided that he will start OTR driving and when I have the time he will teach me and I will take my test at the dmv for my cal and I will drive locally a basic 9-5 here in town and find a babysitter. We feel this is best for our family because our kids need me as mom at home we definitely took all of your statements into consideration and realized what was best for us. Thank you all for your honesty and truthfulness about the situation. Have a good week stay safe and get your rest when needed you all are very important to us and wish you all safety on the road and while going through this gas shortage!!!!๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€

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OTR:

Over The Road

OTR driving normally means you'll be hauling freight to various customers throughout your company's hauling region. It often entails being gone from home for two to three weeks at a time.

Dm:

Dispatcher, Fleet Manager, Driver Manager

The primary person a driver communicates with at his/her company. A dispatcher can play many roles, depending on the company's structure. Dispatchers may assign freight, file requests for home time, relay messages between the driver and management, inform customer service of any delays, change appointment times, and report information to the load planners.

DMV:

Department of Motor Vehicles, Bureau of Motor Vehicles

The state agency that handles everything related to your driver's licences, including testing, issuance, transfers, and revocation.

Jazmine R.'s Comment
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We are trying to set a stable environment for our children but I was never raised to sit back and let a man handle the income because any day anything can happen and that man can leave them Iโ€™m up ****s creek because I depended on his income I understand driving from one side to the next isnโ€™t much experience but itโ€™s still a decent paycheck to maintain bills or save for a rainy especially when my state minimum wage is 7.50 and $17 is a lot better I alone would bring in 2720 before taxes which would maintain my household in the case something happens. Also I definitely understand what you all are saying but I canโ€™t depend on someone else only myself and my kids depend on me whether their father is in the picture or not. Childcare here I can more than likely get a voucher for my older two because they have a different dad. Which will cover them completely and I wasnโ€™t going to drive his company truck he is working towards his own truck. And if it comes down to it we have a technical college that offers cdl where I can take courses.

CDL:

Commercial Driver's License (CDL)

A CDL is required to drive any of the following vehicles:

  • Any combination of vehicles with a gross combined weight rating (GCWR) of 26,001 or more pounds, providing the gross vehicle weight rating (GVWR) of the vehicle being towed is in excess of 10,000 pounds.
  • Any single vehicle with a GVWR of 26,001 or more pounds, or any such vehicle towing another not in excess of 10,000 pounds.
  • Any vehicle, regardless of size, designed to transport 16 or more persons, including the driver.
  • Any vehicle required by federal regulations to be placarded while transporting hazardous materials.
Tammy A.'s Comment
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If your kids are still at home at 33 yrs old you will understand exactly what I mean lo, It was a joke

And what exactly does that mean

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Im becoming a truck driver to RUN AWAY from mine lol

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Thank you all for your feed back my husband have sat down and talked we have decided that he will start OTR driving and when I have the time he will teach me and I will take my test at the dmv for my cal and I will drive locally a basic 9-5 here in town and find a babysitter. We feel this is best for our family because our kids need me as mom at home we definitely took all of your statements into consideration and realized what was best for us. Thank you all for your honesty and truthfulness about the situation. Have a good week stay safe and get your rest when needed you all are very important to us and wish you all safety on the road and while going through this gas shortage!!!!๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€

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OTR:

Over The Road

OTR driving normally means you'll be hauling freight to various customers throughout your company's hauling region. It often entails being gone from home for two to three weeks at a time.

Dm:

Dispatcher, Fleet Manager, Driver Manager

The primary person a driver communicates with at his/her company. A dispatcher can play many roles, depending on the company's structure. Dispatchers may assign freight, file requests for home time, relay messages between the driver and management, inform customer service of any delays, change appointment times, and report information to the load planners.

DMV:

Department of Motor Vehicles, Bureau of Motor Vehicles

The state agency that handles everything related to your driver's licences, including testing, issuance, transfers, and revocation.

Seabee-J's Comment
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Actually, I think that perhaps School Bus driving would be a good fit in your case . I don't know about your area but many School bus companies will pay you to get your class B plus P/S endorsements and train you not dissimilar to the Company training programs in the A world . You usually have to stay about a year commitment. The plus for you is that most have fulltime part time or casual jobs and flexibility in what hours you can work AM PM midday to accommodate your home life. Pay can be ok to pretty good in quite a few places. One driver I know makes $26/hr he averages about 35 a week not including charters . Just something to think about .

Banks's Comment
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We are trying to set a stable environment for our children but I was never raised to sit back and let a man handle the income because any day anything can happen and that man can leave them Iโ€™m up ****s creek because I depended on his income I understand driving from one side to the next isnโ€™t much experience but itโ€™s still a decent paycheck to maintain bills or save for a rainy especially when my state minimum wage is 7.50 and $17 is a lot better I alone would bring in 2720 before taxes which would maintain my household in the case something happens. Also I definitely understand what you all are saying but I canโ€™t depend on someone else only myself and my kids depend on me whether their father is in the picture or not. Childcare here I can more than likely get a voucher for my older two because they have a different dad. Which will cover them completely and I wasnโ€™t going to drive his company truck he is working towards his own truck. And if it comes down to it we have a technical college that offers cdl where I can take courses.

We didn't tell you to sit back and let a man take care of you, we're pointing out all of the holes in your plan because there are a lot of them. For example, you say he's going to buy his own truck and train you in it. The insurance company will never ok that and I know, what the insurance company doesn't know won't hurt but what happens if you hit something? Insurance company drops him and he's too much of a liability for another insurance company, now what? The down side is so steep and there is very little upside. Risk vs rewards and if your husband doesn't see that, he shouldn't be looking to buy a truck.

We're not telling you to not work and to depend on a man, we're telling you to put the CDL dreams on hold because it's a bad time for it. There are a lot of options open right now and you can take advantage of any of them. They're offering training in a bunch of fields, why not take advantage of that? CDL training will always be around if you decide to do it when your kids are older, but right now trucking isn't a good fit.

CDL:

Commercial Driver's License (CDL)

A CDL is required to drive any of the following vehicles:

  • Any combination of vehicles with a gross combined weight rating (GCWR) of 26,001 or more pounds, providing the gross vehicle weight rating (GVWR) of the vehicle being towed is in excess of 10,000 pounds.
  • Any single vehicle with a GVWR of 26,001 or more pounds, or any such vehicle towing another not in excess of 10,000 pounds.
  • Any vehicle, regardless of size, designed to transport 16 or more persons, including the driver.
  • Any vehicle required by federal regulations to be placarded while transporting hazardous materials.
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