How Do I Get Out Of This?

Speechless.

This one took some twists & turns...

Rick

I know. I really screwed up. She kept hitting on me, not direct but I knew what was going on. I kept trying to steer the conversation away from that. I wanted to say no, but then she hopped into the front seat with no clothes one night when we were pulling into a truck stop for my 30 minute break. It had been a long time and I'm young, what can I say. Sometimes its hard to think things all the way through and you just go with the moment.

I'm not sure I'm buying this, but if it's true, I would;

(1) Make sure I covered my tail so the female trainer couldn't claim it was rape. The accusation itself could destroy your life. Rainy is 100% right on all counts. Whatever it took. Recording conversations, securing any evidence, etc. Whatever. It. took.

(2) I think RoadR has the better hand and I wouldn't be afraid to go all in. I'd make it clear that I'm getting approved to go solo ASAP or you're (a) screaming to everyone possible at the company and (b) calling a lawyer to file a sexual harassment complaint.

Your best bet is to contact HR and the training department immediately and tell them what has happened and what is currently happening. Be the first to report it on the record. Admit to having made a HUGE mistake in submitting to your trainer's advances. Make sure you're the first one to contact them about this, because if she brings it up first, it's going to be all but impossible to prove otherwise. It's unfortunate, but the prevailing assumption in these situations is that the man is the aggressor, and if she goes running to HR and yells "harassment," that will follow you and you can kiss your chances of EVER driving a truck goodbye. I don't know what your company's policies are regarding relationships between trainer/trainer, and whether what you've already done is a firable offense, but trying to explain to another company that you got fired for violating a policy beats the hell out of having to tell them it was for sexually harassing your trainer (which isn't what happened, but it's what will be the official record if you're not proactive in this).

And next time? Keep it zipped, buddy.

Ya know....I'm an older woman and single.

And I'll leave it at that. Lol

Sorry needed to lighten the mood.

That was darn forward of her. Uhm...she sounds totally unhinged to me. Now I don't want her driving a truck at all.

RUN. Call your dispatcher and tell them what is going on. This can't be the first time and if it was reported before but they got conflicting stories, the prior stories would bolster your credibility. Get off that truck asap. See what your DM/FM or whoever says.

***disclaimer...this is my personal opinion and no reflection of Brett or TT

Speaking of older women and younger men, I haven't seen gladhand around. What did you do to him, Rainey.... lol. Is he in your dungeon?

Speaking of older women and younger men, I haven't seen gladhand around. What did you do to him, Rainey.... lol. Is he in your dungeon?

No...and I didn't hide Tractor Man either. :(

Well after reading all the replies I'm going to go talk to her before I call HR or anyone. I think I can calm her down. Plus I got to sleep tonight before I drive.

I appreciate you all for letting me talk about it, that helps, its been all in my head till now. I got good advice here too so ultimately its totally up to me what to do about it. But if she goes crazy again then I'll call HR. I think Steak Eater and Fatsquatch are right, better if I'm the first one to report it, but also better if I can fix it without telling the company. Like Old School said. No one believes guys in this situation. I know that from past experience which is why it took so long to even talk about it with anyone. No I wasn't accused of rape but something else happened when I was younger and most people didn't believe me.

Thanks again.

Just remember that most of these "Talk's" lead to something so be strong and don't "Go There" Good luck Man!

Any trainer/tranee relationship of that nature is coming strictly taboo and would land her in so much trouble, up to and including being terminated.

I had a male trainer. We became friends and kept in touch after I went solo. Later we ended up dating, then lastly teaming together. When we made the decision to actually date it was with great trepidation and any appearance of any unprofessional conduct could have really gone bad, so we approached our employer HR rep and let them know of our intention to date before they heard it through the grapevine.

They grilled him about that something fierce. I was questioned about it as well. When they were finally satisfied that my training was strictly professional and nothing more, they gave the ok for us to begin dating. It's actually against company policy, but many drivers do date each other and a few are married to other drivers.

We're still together. We teamed for a while too but stopped teaming because I was asked to become a trainer. These days we shack up and take home time together.

I agreed the best way to handle your situation is to keep good records and be firm.

Good luck.

Ya know....I'm an older woman and single.

And I'll leave it at that. Lol

Sorry needed to lighten the mood.

That was darn forward of her. Uhm...she sounds totally unhinged to me. Now I don't want her driving a truck at all.

RUN. Call your dispatcher and tell them what is going on. This can't be the first time and if it was reported before but they got conflicting stories, the prior stories would bolster your credibility. Get off that truck asap. See what your DM/FM or whoever says.

***disclaimer...this is my personal opinion and no reflection of Brett or TT

Rainy, if I recall correctly a couple days ago you stated you currently have a male student. How do we know it isn't you he's referring to!?!?!? Bretts created a monster, gave ya the moderator title and now your out there manipulating your students!? Just kidding of course....

Road R. As difficult as it's going to be you really do need to contact your company immediately. You really do need to take rainys advice. Your trainers behavior (as well as yours) is completely unacceptable.