This Has Been The Best Move, But Really Crappy.

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Ooga Boogaloo 's Comment
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Coming to Wilson has been the best move I've made regarding work and a career. Was building cabinets before hand. Just finished a project for Emily Proctor (csi Miami) and Lonnie Chisenhall ( Cleveland indians) Well now its turned out to be a wreck emotionally. 1 week in otr with trainer my grandfather passes. Okay. Normal, old age, still sucked. Well, I'm out for my 30k w trainer and I got news Jan. 29th from my fiance that my buddy had taken his life. Service is saturday, and was getting routed back home to get my license this Monday. Well my trainer decides to take a load 15hrs away from my direction because of pay. I get it. But F me right. Sorry, just needed to get off my chest.

OTR:

Over The Road

OTR driving normally means you'll be hauling freight to various customers throughout your company's hauling region. It often entails being gone from home for two to three weeks at a time.

PJ's Comment
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Dang Cole that is rough. I’m sorry for your loss’s. The older I get the more similiar notifications I get, never gets any easier. My prayers are with you and your family. Sounds like your trainer is a L/O and a piece of work.

I’m loading now headed toward the house for similar circumstanes. A close buddy of mine passed last thursday unexpectedly. He was on a job site and collapsed. Autospy showed he had a heart condition he never knew about. Only 45 years old. Service is saturday at 1100.

Anne A. (momcat)'s Comment
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Coming to Wilson has been the best move I've made regarding work and a career. Was building cabinets before hand. Just finished a project for Emily Proctor (csi Miami) and Lonnie Chisenhall ( Cleveland indians) Well now its turned out to be a wreck emotionally. 1 week in otr with trainer my grandfather passes. Okay. Normal, old age, still sucked. Well, I'm out for my 30k w trainer and I got news Jan. 29th from my fiance that my buddy had taken his life. Service is saturday, and was getting routed back home to get my license this Monday. Well my trainer decides to take a load 15hrs away from my direction because of pay. I get it. But F me right. Sorry, just needed to get off my chest.

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Dang Cole that is rough; I’m sorry for your loss’s. The older I get the more similiar notifications I get, never gets any easier. My prayers are with you and your family. Sounds like your trainer is a L/O and a piece of work.

I’m loading now headed toward the house for similar circumstanes. A close buddy of mine passed last thursday unexpectedly. He was on a job site and collapsed. Autospy showed he had a heart condition he never knew about. Only 45 years old. Service is saturday at 1100.

I'm so sorry . . . for you both. Hugs, care, luv & prayer . . . . from Ohio.

PJ, feels here like 1x a week. Stay safe & blessed. Cole; What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Don't care for the artist, just the words. Stay safe & blessed.

,,,, Anne ....

OTR:

Over The Road

OTR driving normally means you'll be hauling freight to various customers throughout your company's hauling region. It often entails being gone from home for two to three weeks at a time.

Ooga Boogaloo 's Comment
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Thanks man, and you as well. Its a bummer. Just know him and his ol lady got into a argument he took off and they found him. Had hung himself. Was just on the phone with him 2 days prior. Seemed all good and happy. But you can never know what is going through peoples minds and what's happening in their lives.

Dang Cole that is rough. I’m sorry for your loss’s. The older I get the more similiar notifications I get, never gets any easier. My prayers are with you and your family. Sounds like your trainer is a L/O and a piece of work.

I’m loading now headed toward the house for similar circumstanes. A close buddy of mine passed last thursday unexpectedly. He was on a job site and collapsed. Autospy showed he had a heart condition he never knew about. Only 45 years old. Service is saturday at 1100.

Jammer a's Comment
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Sorry to hear that you guys I just got same news to 1 of the fellas I grew up with in the neighborhood passed also I’m not gonna be able to make it though

Dang Cole that is rough. I’m sorry for your loss’s. The older I get the more similiar notifications I get, never gets any easier. My prayers are with you and your family. Sounds like your trainer is a L/O and a piece of work.

I’m loading now headed toward the house for similar circumstanes. A close buddy of mine passed last thursday unexpectedly. He was on a job site and collapsed. Autospy showed he had a heart condition he never knew about. Only 45 years old. Service is saturday at 1100.

Rob T.'s Comment
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Sorry for your loss Cole. That's unfortunate about not being able to make it back home for the service. I'd say your trainer has made it very clear they're in it strictly for the extra money. Once you're on your own if you have a good working relationship with your dispatcher they'll do their best to get you home in situations like this but sometimes it just isn't possible. Hang in there, things will get better.

Dispatcher:

Dispatcher, Fleet Manager, Driver Manager

The primary person a driver communicates with at his/her company. A dispatcher can play many roles, depending on the company's structure. Dispatchers may assign freight, file requests for home time, relay messages between the driver and management, inform customer service of any delays, change appointment times, and report information to the load planners.
Old School's Comment
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Life on the road is a wonderful thing for those who can adjust to it. It's not for everyone, and it has it's moments that really bother those of us who enjoy it. Most of us have family and friends that we leave behind to pursue a trucking career. That means we still have ties at home. It is generally those ties that cause us grief or pain. I didn't like leaving everything to my wife when I first got on the road. After a while we both adjusted and it became not such a big deal. She has made my life on the road better by adjusting to the new responsibilities like a soldier. She is a big reason for my success. Some spouses don't do so well, in fact some make life on the road miserable for their trucker partner - some marriages don't make it through the process. It's a sad reality of this lifestyle.

I had my elderly mother living with us when I started driving OTR. That meant my wife was going to be fully responsible for her care. That was a big challenge for her. She bore it well, and my brother would occasionally come get my mother for a stay at his home for a few months at a time. That was a big help and a relief to my wife. My mother's mental health declined further and that just made it all the more challenging for them.

I remember well, the day one of my sisters called, to say the whole family was gathered together with Mom. It appeared she was dying and she had been asking where I was. I had seen my mother appear to be dying so many times, that I was confident she would rally like she had so many times before. I had just left out of Louisiana with a load of aluminum extrusions bound for Farmington, CT. I was maybe 350 miles into the trip when I got the call and I told my sister that I needed to finish up the load, and then I would get myself dispatched onto something that would get me home. I could have contacted my dispatcher and told him, "I've got a family emergency, I need to relay this load to another driver and bobtail home." They would have allowed it and done whatever they could to help, but I honestly had seen my mother revive so many times that it was almost as if I never expected her to fully succumb to her problems. She died the next morning. I felt bad about it at the time, but I made a choice and I lived with it. My dispatcher helped me get home for the funeral.

That's part of this job. Things happen at home that we can't always be a part of. It's sad, and it can even be painful. We accept it as part of the job we do. I always talk about what a huge commitment there is to trucking. Part of that commitment is that we know we are not going to be at home for all the normal things that normal people do. We aren't exactly normal people. We are moving the world's goods. This is a special job that requires special people. It also requires a special spouse at home. I give my wife a lot of the credit for my success. I have listened to other truck drivers complain vehemently about their spouse. You won't hear that kind of nonsense from me. Mine has proven to be an excellent partner in the commitment to this lifestyle. Trucking can be hard, painful, pleasant and downright exhilarating. It's an extraordinary job requiring extraordinary people. Some of those people are at home, some are in an office. Some of us are constantly on the move in those big rigs we see crossing the country. Keep trucking my friends - it is a good move!

Bobtail:

"Bobtailing" means you are driving a tractor without a trailer attached.

OTR:

Over The Road

OTR driving normally means you'll be hauling freight to various customers throughout your company's hauling region. It often entails being gone from home for two to three weeks at a time.

Dispatcher:

Dispatcher, Fleet Manager, Driver Manager

The primary person a driver communicates with at his/her company. A dispatcher can play many roles, depending on the company's structure. Dispatchers may assign freight, file requests for home time, relay messages between the driver and management, inform customer service of any delays, change appointment times, and report information to the load planners.

HOS:

Hours Of Service

HOS refers to the logbook hours of service regulations.
Lucas C.'s Comment
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Coming to Wilson has been the best move I've made regarding work and a career. Was building cabinets before hand. Just finished a project for Emily Proctor (csi Miami) and Lonnie Chisenhall ( Cleveland indians) Well now its turned out to be a wreck emotionally. 1 week in otr with trainer my grandfather passes. Okay. Normal, old age, still sucked. Well, I'm out for my 30k w trainer and I got news Jan. 29th from my fiance that my buddy had taken his life. Service is saturday, and was getting routed back home to get my license this Monday. Well my trainer decides to take a load 15hrs away from my direction because of pay. I get it. But F me right. Sorry, just needed to get off my chest.

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Dang Cole that is rough; I’m sorry for your loss’s. The older I get the more similiar notifications I get, never gets any easier. My prayers are with you and your family. Sounds like your trainer is a L/O and a piece of work.

I’m loading now headed toward the house for similar circumstanes. A close buddy of mine passed last thursday unexpectedly. He was on a job site and collapsed. Autospy showed he had a heart condition he never knew about. Only 45 years old. Service is saturday at 1100.

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I'm so sorry . . . for you both. Hugs, care, luv & prayer . . . . from Ohio.

PJ, feels here like 1x a week. Stay safe & blessed. Cole; What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Don't care for the artist, just the words. Stay safe & blessed.

,,,, Anne ....

Thank you so much your site has nice content

OTR:

Over The Road

OTR driving normally means you'll be hauling freight to various customers throughout your company's hauling region. It often entails being gone from home for two to three weeks at a time.

Dwayne W.'s Comment
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Wow OS! Your posts are inspirational!

I'm not in the business yet (gotta retire from my current job in 2022). But I'm cutting your last paragraph to send to my wife right now. Good stuff. Thank you for your mentorship.

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