Need Help With Issue

The problem is the over the top flamboyance, daisy dukes, flirting, and just the in general man trying to be a woman. It’s absolutely disgusting. If I say one wrong word to him or to my driver manager I could be seen as being homophobic.

Well you are, so...

No, he's not. You think a company would force a female trainee to ride with a male trainer? I could give a rat's ass what one does with their genitalia but I refuse to get caught up in this current atmosphere of you MUST abide by this otherwise you are a (whatever)-phobe.

When I joined the Army, in my career field being gay was grounds for dismissal. Even back then, nobody cared. For the VAST majority of people, this isn't a problem. It IS a problem if you find yourself in a truck with a hypersexualized person. Why is that even a issue?

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Thanks Kearsey, solid suggestions as usual from yourself.

Steven, I’m not going to create a problem or do something stupid to get out of this situation. I will either request a new trainer regardless of how it looks or ride it out. I’m not going to compound the problem.

Bobcat, no i haven’t spoken to him man to man. I wasn’t sure if it would be appropriate in this regard. Also, it’s not just flirting on the cb, it’s everything Ive posted and just the situation in general. You can always turn a cb off/down if needed. This is a situation I’m in 24/7.

There’s a cool feature on this website is called GPS tracker. It’s listed your current location in some neighborhood in Dallas for the last three days it’s kind a hard to live with your trainer 24/7 if that’s the case.

Hey Craig I’m curious looks like the Trucking Truth tracker has you checking in from a home. Are you guys doing resets at home or were you already able to request a new trainer already? Unless you are delivering in a residential area.

I may miss something, but what's wrong in telling a training manager the truth, that means that sharing a cab with a gay trainer is not what a trainee wants? Let all this PC bull.**** stay elsewhere, no need to bring it into the trucking industry. If I don't like or want something, I say so, and if it cannot be fixed I walk away.

“The problem is the over the top flamboyance, daisy dukes, flirting, and just the in general man trying to be a woman.

It’s absolutely disgusting.”

I’m willing to bet that your trainer is absolutely not flirting with you. Are they making unwelcome, unsolicited sexual advances? Sexually inappropriate comments? Uninvited comments about your looks or perceived attractiveness? Direct or indirect passes? Sexually inappropriate comments about other men?

Unless their actual nether regions are on display from beneath the hem of the shorts, just because you find them too short for a man to wear isn’t really your business. And the “over the top flamboyance” is an entirely subjective judgment.

I’m with Turtle on this one - I can’t think of a better textbook example of being homophobic, not to mention transphobic on the last one.

It’s 2021. Sounds like your trainer can teach you about a hell of a lot more than trucking.

Nice pull on the GPS, Bird-one! 😂

This post was fishy from the start and has all the trappings of a troll checking in from home.

I call BS as well. That said, I stand by my sentiments from the previous post on this imaginary “issue.”

I can’t think of a better textbook example of being homophobic, not to mention transphobic on the last one.

The word 'homophobic' has lost much of its original meaning. People use it to describe anyone who is not gay and dislikes gays. Which is wrong, because sharing a lifestyle is a private thing. Just as voting republican doesn't make one demophobic :-)

Although “homophobic” contains the Greek root “phobos” for “fear,” the English suffix “-phobia” or “-phobic” does not always mean “afraid of.”

Homophobic is defined as “having or showing a dislike of or prejudice against homosexual people.” (It is not, however, limited to straight people, as closeted homosexuals frequently demonstrate homophobic behavior out of fear of being outed.)

Qualifying the aforementioned examples as “absolutely disgusting” is therefore about as textbook a definition as it gets.

That said, my politics are so far off the map I will proudly identify as both “republiphobic” AND “demophobic.” 😂

I have to disagree with you Kearsey as much as I hate too. I personally haven’t seen any evidence of sexual harassment. And I don’t think an article of clothing can be either. Sounds like a lawsuit waiting to happen. Saying I don’t feel comfortable about a guy who is sitting down most of the time anyways is making me feel uncomfortable because he is wearing short shorts. Otherwise where would it end?.. “shorts are to small” “jeans are to tight” “He plays Christian music while driving” etc. I’m just not seeing it. What I would consider sexual harassment to be if he was trying to grab you while driving or purposely rubbing his rear end on you while going to the sleeper. Although the op was fake. If this was a true scenario, although would be rough, I’d would also say you would need to stick it out and get it over with.

Technically any sort of "annoying behavior" can constitute as harassment. The daisy duke shorts can be sexual harassment. And yes it is a hostile work environment. It is how the person perceives things and your perception is that you are being annoyed/harassed and made uncomfortable.

If you want to change trainers, tell them you feel uncomfortable with the sexualized attire and flirting. As a woman I make it a point not to show cleavage _(although I have a lot of it) and other things that could entice. If a honest loyal married guy was around my exposed breasts 24/7 wouldnt that make him uncomfortable? Probably.

What if you were gay? Wouldn't that be tempting? And honestly no one knows if you are or not.

Understand though that all complaints stay in a trainers permanent record. Should this be on his record?

Change trainers and concentrate on your training. You can even use his demeanor as a distraction from learning.

Eugene, I was not talking about exact meaning of the Greek roots. It is the transfer of meaning from 'dislike gay people' to 'bad.' If someone, for example, dislikes broccoli (as I do), people can call him broccoliphobic, and it will be just as neutral as being claustrophobic. However, if someone dislikes gay people, he is called homophobic which is considered to be a bad thing in today's American mainstream. And I think it is wrong.