Personal Life Details

I see that this thread has now split into two sub-threads. The first is about privacy and the second is about mixed marriages and racism. 1) Trucking industry is exactly the same as any other industry when it comes to human interaction. Good people are treated well, and morons are treated in an opposite way. You reveal as much of yourself as you want other people including your trainer to know about yourself, that simple. 2) Marriage is a private enterprise, why would anyone ask for opinion unless he wants not an opinion, but a debate? And as for racism and racial discrimination, America is the most tolerant and diverse country in the civilized world. Racial victimhood, unfortunately, is a well paid business today, and a lot of people are playing this black and white BS for a number of reasons: money, benefits, stupidity, you name it.

Andrey,

CHILLAX! I corrected your typos, haha!

Ms. Laura gets to meet her long lost nephew, Davy. Who CARES what color/creed/religion?!?!

I'm waiting for pix in the 'meet up' thread, myself!

~ Anne ~

ps: Loveya, Ms. Laura!!!

Anne, thank you!

Anne, thank you!

Anytime!!

It's what I'm here for!

~a~

We didn't even have time for my trainer to get personal. Honestly, they don't care. Trainers have a short time with the trainees. Of things that are probably much more concern are making money, staying safe, keeping the truck from being damaged, and hopefully actually giving the trainee some knowledge and experience.

You should be concentrating on what questions You can be asking your trainer, not the other way around.

Thank you, Davy. I always appreciate the way you are able to set one of us soon-to-be-newbs straight while doing so tactfully.

I see that this thread has now split into two sub-threads. The first is about privacy and the second is about mixed marriages and racism. 1) Trucking industry is exactly the same as any other industry when it comes to human interaction. Good people are treated well, and morons are treated in an opposite way. You reveal as much of yourself as you want other people including your trainer to know about yourself, that simple. 2) Marriage is a private enterprise, why would anyond ask for opinion unless he wants not an opinion, but a debate? And as for racism and racial discrimination, America is the most tolerant and diverse country in the civilized world. Racial victomhood, unfortunately, is a well paid business today, and a lot of people are playing this black and white BS for a number of reasons: money, benefits, stupidity, you name it.

I appreciate your thoughts, Andrey.

Something that I would like to clarify regarding my purpose for asking the questions to start the thread:

1) I recognize that I could have asked the question without mentioning anything of my marital status. Of course, hindsight is 20/20. I mentioned my marriage only for the purpose of providing context regarding my question.

2) I was not looking to create any sort of controversy, and I feel bad that it appeared that I was.

3) I am human and sometimes I react to things that are not necessarily the best way to respond. I don't think there is any person here that this doesn't apply to at one point or another because we are all human.

4) I am thankful to have been able to learn something of myself and others from the interactions of this thread.

5) I can be as opinionated and outspoken as anyone, but I never think of myself as better than anyone. If ever come across as such, I truly apologize because this is not going through my mind at all.

6) I do value all opinions and experiences that I read on this forum. I value some more than others, but I believe that is natural. Even if I don't like the way something is presented to me or the message being conveyed, I am able to recognize when there is something worthwhile to be gained.

Thank you again, to all who have weighed in on my questions presented here.

My trainer back in 2005 was from the Dominican Republic. Great guy not the best trainer(backing ) but I will never forget my time spent. If he saw prejudice he also saw red and confronted. I laugh at this part still "when he confronted he would get in the persons face "you are kkk stupid dumb kkk" on and on. I was bullied around at a truck stop in 'Bama because I was letting a "wetback" train me. Once again I lost track of my point. Oh, the student Jose had before me was according to Jose "the worst kkk ever". Apparently the dude was always commenting on Jose's accent or putting down any trucker who wasnt "white". Etc Well I was sitting at the yard one day discussing w other drivers plus Adrian from safety our trainers and our opinion of them. Well this pretty rough looking character who had speech impediment barely could form his words speaks up about his trainer. Close to tears he went on about his prejudices and hatred toward hispanics, blacks, etc. It was jose's student prior to me and the experience changed his opinion. Adrian(from safety) actually put in for Jose to be commended as well as Gerald the student.

Kerry,

I'm bumping this thread, because I wanted to chime in with some advice for you. I have been solo for over a year now and have learned trucking is one career where people care the least about your personal life, political opinions. religious affiliations, racial perspectives, social justice, you name it. These things only become an issue if YOU make them an issue, which you have here an elsewhere on this forum. Your comments have been insightful, not necessarily in a positive way, and entertaining at times. And if you want to continue the drama here or elsewhere on the internet, fine. Brett is more than happy to let people make fools of themselves. But if you bring that drama to your relationships with your trainer, your dispatch, shippers and receivers, drivers at trucks stops, law enforcement, you may very well make obstacles to your success.

So my advice to you, is follow your own advice, as quoted from your bio:

Life choices can and will have a lasting effect, so choose wisely in any and every situation. You never know when the next choice can impact the rest of your life.

Based on what you shared, you have made some bad decisions that have impacted the rest of your life.

There's a saying in twelve-step programs:

If nothing changes, nothing changes.

Good luck and Happy Thanksgiving.

Kerry,

I'm bumping this thread, because I wanted to chime in with some advice for you. I have been solo for over a year now and have learned trucking is one career where people care the least about your personal life, political opinions. religious affiliations, racial perspectives, social justice, you name it. These things only become an issue if YOU make them an issue, which you have here an elsewhere on this forum. Your comments have been insightful, not necessarily in a positive way, and entertaining at times. And if you want to continue the drama here or elsewhere on the internet, fine. Brett is more than happy to let people make fools of themselves. But if you bring that drama to your relationships with your trainer, your dispatch, shippers and receivers, drivers at trucks stops, law enforcement, you may very well make obstacles to your success.

So my advice to you, is follow your own advice, as quoted from your bio:

Life choices can and will have a lasting effect, so choose wisely in any and every situation. You never know when the next choice can impact the rest of your life.

Based on what you shared, you have made some bad decisions that have impacted the rest of your life.

There's a saying in twelve-step programs:

If nothing changes, nothing changes.

Good luck and Happy Thanksgiving.

I really appreciate that, Chief Brody. It may not always seem like it from the way I respond to posts on here at times, but I really do take the comments of experienced drivers to heart.

Take care of yourself and Happy Thanksgiving to you.

As far as sharing personal life details with a trainer, or anyone you work with, is IMHO something that you have to decide for yourself... I would suggest that you feel the person out before you share intimate personal details.... things like hobbies, sports, etc. are things I shared with my trainer until I got to know him better. once we got comfortable with each other, we shared more personal info about our lives with each other. as far as sharing things like that you are in an inter-racial relationship is something that I personally wait until I figured out what their views on it are. Most people don't care, mainly because people can't control who they fall in love with....