It Keeps Changing

This is a plan. Please dont jump all over it lol. The only plan I can think of where I will have peace is joining a company in whatever state. I know between school and training on the road is about 5 months. I cant leave my kid home. I know hes 33 but I cant be at ease knowing he is in my house alone and hes not much of a cleaner if you know what I mean. I was thinking of finding a company and me and the kid drive to whatever state. getting a campground close by and do my training while living at the campground. When I go on the road for my training he will have to stay at the campground while Im gone. Which is fine because I put him in sun and fun sarasota for 4 months with the rv years ago and it was fine. After I finish my training then I can take him with me in the truck. I would have to get a company where they let you have passengers. I kind of think this could work out because he could help me if I needed him and he is really good with figuring things out mechanically and computer wise whatever hes a wicked smart kid but just i guess has an entitled personality. my fault so I pay the piper. As we go through the states he can pick out a state he wants to get an apartment and find a job. He wants California. Of course nothing goes any where near as planned but is this doable. If I have him with me I wont have to worry. I dont think he wants to come but he may have no choice.

Another poster that shows why millennials can't do their own thing. The parents don't want to quit babying them and let go.

Without going too much into the parenting/enabling side that has been discussed for another member, Harvey, no this isn't feasible. If your kid can't handle basic responsibilities such as cleaning thats their issue. If its negatively impacting you or your property then maybe they should move out. You've spent your life raising a family now its time for you to do what YOU want.

Most companies will not allow a rider right away. They often require 3 to 6 months solo. Honestly, it comes across as you're trying to find excuses or reasons NOT to jump in. If he hasn't shown interest by age 33 to move out and find a job/career why would he start now?

Thats my point. Its not going to start now. I said im paying the piper. How the hell am i supposed to raise a boy to a man? I had to work for years 100 hours a week. My bad but it is what it is. btw no welfare EVER. Theres always a casuality and I AM DOING THIS just alot to figure out! I ALWAYS do what I want

Another poster that shows why millennials can't do their own thing. The parents don't want to quit babying them and let go.

Without going too much into the parenting/enabling side that has been discussed for another member, Harvey, no this isn't feasible. If your kid can't handle basic responsibilities such as cleaning thats their issue. If its negatively impacting you or your property then maybe they should move out. You've spent your life raising a family now its time for you to do what YOU want.

Most companies will not allow a rider right away. They often require 3 to 6 months solo. Honestly, it comes across as you're trying to find excuses or reasons NOT to jump in. If he hasn't shown interest by age 33 to move out and find a job/career why would he start now?

Thats my point. Its not going to start now. I said im paying the piper. How the hell am i supposed to raise a boy to a man? I had to work for years 100 hours a week. My bad but it is what it is. btw no welfare EVER. Theres always a casuality and I AM DOING THIS just alot to figure out! I ALWAYS do what I want

Another poster that shows why millennials can't do their own thing. The parents don't want to quit babying them and let go.

Without going too much into the parenting/enabling side that has been discussed for another member, Harvey, no this isn't feasible. If your kid can't handle basic responsibilities such as cleaning thats their issue. If its negatively impacting you or your property then maybe they should move out. You've spent your life raising a family now its time for you to do what YOU want.

Most companies will not allow a rider right away. They often require 3 to 6 months solo. Honestly, it comes across as you're trying to find excuses or reasons NOT to jump in. If he hasn't shown interest by age 33 to move out and find a job/career why would he start now?

I hate to be the bearer of bad news but raising a boy to be a man? That ship sailed 20 years ago. And welfare, yes, your son is on welfare and you are his government. Is he retarded, developmentally challenged or what? I believe you are dead wrong when you say you always do what you want. You always do what your son wants. If, and that's a HUGE if you actually do jump in and get a cdl and a job you still won't be doing what you want. Yours is a sad case of enabling. You effectively have an 5 year old that has been alive for 33 years. It's a sad situation but you have nobody to blame but yourself. I fear the guilt you harbor for not being around as much as you feel you should have when he was aging (notice I didn't say growing up) due to having to work 100 hours a week has already ruined him and possibly you. Does he not feel any guilt at all and is he not embarrassed to still have mommy changing his diapers at 33? Does he read the comments on here? Perhaps he should. He would have to be embarrassed and might finally realize that you claim to want to separate. Its wayyyyy past time to cut the umbilical cord, your situation passed healthy relationship status decades ago. I guarantee you are doing him a disservice by enabling him to do...well...nothing for himself. I know nothing other than what you have posted on this site but that is enough to see what you either won't or just can't face. Grow a pair and cut the cord, at least then one of you two will have a pair. I mean no real disrespect and am not trying to anger you but dang Tammy, you act like you are still raising an infant that requires you to feed, clothe and change diapers for it. I guess as an actual man I just can't comprehend how your little boy can accept being an adult baby. Oh well, I'd say good luck with the trucking thing but we both know you'll have to drop out of school or training to run off and care for junior.

33? And cannot clean after himself? I am afraid that any thing I can say will be insulting, so I'd rather not say anything at all. But blessed be the almighty who let me grow up in Russia and raise my American kids accordingly!

I don’t think it’ll work. But, do YOU want your 33 year-old sleeping with you? Watching you change clothes? I mean; you do know these sleepers aren’t as big as your bathroom, right?

As a Company Driver, you likely won’t need whatever mechanical skills he has.

I’m sure he DOES wanna live in California. As long as HE DOESN’T HAVE TO PAY for it.

Good luck.

Jesus I said dont bash me. No he doesnt read this he has no interest. No empathy and he says hes not a slave. He ABSOLUTELY believes that. Any way if my scenero wont work Ill have to leave him home. Im doing this no matter what. I know I can do this. He tells me every day ill hate it. I know the road I loved it. I always said i want to be a truck driver and this is my last chance. btw his friends tell him the same thing and he doesnt care he just says I love my life.so...

I was home alone babysitting my younger siblings cooking and cleaning when I was 13. Your son and I are about the same age.

Training is hard. I trained locally and the last thing I wanted to do at the end of the day was come home to deal with home issues. I would come home, lock myself in the bathroom to update my diary on truckingtruth, take a shower and go to bed. It's mentally draining and frustrating.

You're son isn't a slave, you are. Because of that he loves his life.

I'll draw up a new plan for you. Go tell your son he has until xx/yy/zzzz to find a job and move out because you're going to start doing what you want and living your life. The key part here is following through.

You asked for advice about getting into, not a lecture, right?

Here's my advice based on over a year OTR. You need to commit to trucking such that it will be your primary focus for at least one year. So, you need to resolve whatever life situation that will prevent you from that one-year committment and focus. You had asked a previous question regarding a client that relied on you. You got the some advice then. You didn't really need to ask the question about your son. You already got the advice when you asked about your client.

Rob T mentioned that most companies normally require 6 months of solo driving experience to get approval to have a passenger. And that is usually 6 months of INCIDENT FREE driving. One rookie mistake sets the clock back to another 6 months. Truck driving is not for everyone. I'd really like to be an airline pilot, but no matter how strong my desire is, it's not going to happen. Tammy, you need to set a more reasonable goal.